I've never heard of bereavement time. Does it count as a sick day or something?

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WTF, that's clearly because most people don't have their greats. What a bunch of schmucks. Is there someone more reasonable to whom you can appeal. Clearly, this is because of their chosen wording, and someone interpreting it while suffering rectal-cranial inversion.

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I've never heard of bereavement time. Does it count as a sick day or something?

Some companies have bereavement days so that you don't have to take either vacation or sick, if you lose a loved one. There usually are restrictions as to who counts, but they're also generally left open to interpretation. Scott's boss gave him bereavement time for my grandmother, when Scott and I were only dating, whereas my old boss wouldn't have given time for an aunt or uncle (I think it was a parents/spouse/children/siblings policy on paper).

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Only my diary knows for sure.

I both cower in fear and rub my hands together as I cackle with maniacal glee, then!

Aimee, the hell? That is friggin' ridiculous! I am furious on your behalf. Is there some higher up you can appeal to? (This is reminding me of the fight my mother had for her step-father's funeral. They didn't want to let her use bereavement 'cuz step, but he basically raised her, as her dad died before she was a year old. She did get the time, just had a bigger pain in the ass than someone who's grieving should have to put up with). I'm sorry they're doing this to you.

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If I want (which I do) to go home for grandma's funeral, I have to use vacation days. They won't let me use bereavement. And I am not allowed to take it unpaid.

That sucks. I am sorry that they are making it difficult for you to attend the funeral.

I know that places I have worked have specified parents, grands, siblings, children and maybe grandchildren for bereavement. I suppose they don't want people saying that their fourth cousin Jinny recently passed away and they need a week off.

Corporations don't really like to take actual human feelings into account. Harder to balance the sheets when there are vaguaries.

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Big enough to be my very favorite kind of dork.

Whee! I'm Cindy's favorite! Yay!

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They won't let me use bereavement.

DH#1 lost his mother in September and I lost my father the following March. His employer wouldn't allow him time off because they were only allowed one bereavement leave a year. It would be really nice if we only had one bereavement a year, but sometimes it doesn't get doled out that way.

{{Aimee}} I'm sorry you have to deal with this bullshit.

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Aimee, that sucks. It's not like tons of people are going to be having great-grandparents!! (Though if they do, they're probably pretty likely to need bereavement leave...)

Has anybody been watching Roller Derby on A&E? I haven't (no cable) but just saw a commercial, and dang, that's tempting...

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I was deprived of the whole grandparent thing. 3 of them passed before I was born and the last one passed when I was around 7. I've adopted many older friends as substitute grandparents in my life.

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Aimee, I'm sorry about your great-grandmother and your asshat employers. I really don't think that "great-grandmother" is a dangerous precedent. Third cousin, maybe.

Wouldn't it be swell if we could limit our bereavements to once a year.

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