My nephew had that problem and taking martial arts classes really helped him because he got to burn off energy and learn discipline.

I was just about to say that I've seen the same results with tiny fencers many times -- it's not just a matter of burning off energy, but of learning to use their aggression appropriately and in the right context rather than just suppressing it as if it didn't exist. Because we know how well that works...

The money for any kind of activity is always the kicker, of course.

Seany, did Alanis look preggers? (you know, if you're allowed to say so)

Did she do a handstand and then beep your nose? (Please say yes, even if she didn't)

Did you mention she has a bad grasp of the definition of "ironic"?

signed,
actually fond of Alannis, but my wordnerd tendencies *always* win

I've seen the same results with tiny fencers many times

I hate tiny fencers. Much smaller target area. Bah.

MG, it might be counterproductive to make baseball contingent on behavior, since an organized physical activity like that will benefit him the most.

I hate tiny fencers. Much smaller target area. Bah.

This is yet another argument for the superiority of sabre. Tiny sabrists can be popped over the head from above with impunity. And sometimes even with unseemly glee, depending on how bratty they are.

Hold me closer, tiny fencer....

This is yet another argument for the superiority of sabre. Tiny sabrists can be popped over the head from above with impunity. And sometimes even with unseemly glee, depending on how bratty they are.

Heh. That is incredibly appealing, true.

Seany, did Alanis look preggers?

Not even a little.

Did you mention she has a bad grasp of the definition of "ironic"?

Hee! No.

signed, actually fond of Alannis, but my wordnerd tendencies *always* win

Yeah, she sings words with funny pronunciation sometimes, and she doesn't quite get how irony works, but I still adore her music.

Otay. Gershwin Girl would die of embarassment if she knew I was asking sexual advice from random internet folks, but you guys are the best source I can think of for info and googling is telling me a mixture of nothing and stupid things.

I know nothing is TMI here, but I am gonna whitefont for those of you not in the mood for reading about the middling sexual problems of twenty-somethings. My sex life with Gershwin Girl is occasionally frustrating, for both her and me. She provides me with sexual challenges I have no experience with. Specifically: not only has she never orgasmed (or, she thinks, even come close) but she has difficulty maintaining any level of arousal for longer than 15 or 20 minutes.

There are a few specific problems that occur. First, if I try to escalate my ministrations on her too quickly, she tends to have a fast oversensitization reaction (read: pain) that immediately kills her arousal. This, I can actually handle - I've had other lovers that were similar, and I am perfectly okay with taking a long time to build her up, especially since prolonged kissing and hip-thrusting and intimitae stroking and whatnot are very enjoyable for me, too. The unfortunate part is that when I don't escalate quickly, when I do spend more time caressing and kissing and breast-fondling and stroking and all those other things, well - she likes it a lot at first, but, as mentioned earlier, her arousal just tends to die. Sometimes very quickly. Last night, she went from primed and moaning to feeling nothing in less than a second, and neither of us could pinpoint a single thing I had done to cause the sudden turn.

I think it's possibly psychological, to some extent - she suffers from both ADD and anxiety, which is apparently a combination that necessitates some interesting and occasionally odd drug combinations. She both has issues focusing on the sexual acts AND relaxing and enjoying them when she's the, um, "victim" is probably the wrong word, huh? Anyway, when I'm doing my best to do fun things to her, rather than vice versa. But at the same time, I can't help but think that there's something I could do to make it better, to at least improve the situation and make her more satisfied with her sexual encounters. I'm her first long-term boyfriend, so I'm the first person that can and will really take the time to explore her sexual needs and find what works best for her, and any advice on possibilities is appreciated.

Rather than ramble on and on about things that might not be pertinent to your relationship, I suggest you go browse Betty Dodson's website: [link] .

(Obviously, the topics contained therein are NSFW.)