Saffron: But we've been wed. Aren't we to become one flesh? Mal: Well, no, uh... We're still two fleshes here, and I think that your flesh ought to sleep somewhere else.

'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Natter 41: Why Do I Click on ita's Links?!  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Allyson - Dec 24, 2005 7:52:09 am PST #4897 of 10002
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

I was interviewed, but not a contributor.


Kathy A - Dec 24, 2005 7:58:15 am PST #4898 of 10002
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil

I have a question for the hivemind, particularly Jewish members--what is the tradition for baby showers? My co-worker is strict Orthodox and due within the month, and we'd like to have a shower for her, but don't know if there are any restrictions/taboos about when to have it.


JenP - Dec 24, 2005 7:59:19 am PST #4899 of 10002

Cleaning, cleaning, cleaning. And more cleaning. In the new year, I would like to resolve to be a person who cleans regularly so that it's never a big deal. Or, at least, rarely a big deal.

Oh, look, my five minute break is over.

Have fun Laura and Sheryl!


amych - Dec 24, 2005 8:07:56 am PST #4900 of 10002
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Kathy, there's definitely a tradition of not anticipating a baby until after it's born, lest anything bad happen -- it's not so much a religious rule as a superstition/taboo, but you may want to err on the side of caution. The standard workaround is to keep what baby gifts you get in advance at someone else's house, but depending on her sensitivities, having something called a baby shower before the birth may still feel taboo-ish to her. Maybe a going-on-leave party that's more focused on her, with instructions that people can send baby gifts after? Or alternately, a party after the baby comes home.

More info here: [link]


Allyson - Dec 24, 2005 8:08:08 am PST #4901 of 10002
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

My cleaning list is getting some good strikethru's. Still a bit to do, but I'm getting some holiday blues. I wish I had something to open. Selfish, yeah?


Kat - Dec 24, 2005 8:10:01 am PST #4902 of 10002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

we need to clean. and do the laundry. and repot some plants.

But really, we're going to Pain Quotidien to have breakfast breads.


Kat - Dec 24, 2005 8:10:54 am PST #4903 of 10002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Allyson, you want to come over for dinner? porkchops, potatoes. cake.

and we'll wrap something for you to open.


§ ita § - Dec 24, 2005 8:11:12 am PST #4904 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

I do dislike when people won't accept calls from undisplayed numbers. I guess I dislike more the reasons they have to, but still.


Tom Scola - Dec 24, 2005 8:11:46 am PST #4905 of 10002
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.

I'm standing on line at Target with my last resent. It's crowded, but not soul-crushingly so.


Allyson - Dec 24, 2005 8:13:21 am PST #4906 of 10002
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

and we'll wrap something for you to open

you are teh awesome!