I think the two 2-hour phone calls are more alarming than the mix tape, myself. I mean, if I had a boyfriend, I would wonder what he was thinking there. I thought he was Old Flame, not Best Buddy From Grade School.

Well, are you finding it ego-soothing and reminding of your essential lovability?

HUGELY.

ita's peeing on my mix parade.

I thought he was Old Flame, not Best Buddy From Grade School.

He's both. Well, high school and college.

I say 3000 miles and a girlfriend means you bask in the crushiness without worrying that you'll have to follow up.

HUGELY.

Well, keep some perspective to mitigate the bad, but revel in the good! That's what I say.

Also, what brenda said. She is v. wise.

Okay, then. If he's an Ex-Best Buddy, he may not be evil.

Signed, has a great distrust of ex-Flames who call after several years and jerk you around for a few more weeks just because they're bored.

ita's peeing on my mix parade.

You betchya.

I say 3000 miles and a girlfriend means you bask in the crushiness without worrying that you'll have to follow up.

But then there's the flipside that it's much easier to overinvest believing that you're safe, and suddenly the 3000 miles really hurts, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Don't get me wrong, I'd kill to have a good heady crush (I'm not sure I ever have). But they're so much better when the odds are good. And if you do have any control (may not be possible), I say you look at the odds before you get too far into indulging the warm fuzzies.

I just walked down a flight of stairs for the first time while wearing my new bifocals progressive lenses, and I was staring at my feet oddly the whole time, and stopped once mid step to figure out the depth thing, and when I got to the bottom, one of the senior partners and his wife were staring at me.

I'm pretty sure I came across as not being tremendously bright.

Wow. So I just went and looked up both the school they were trying to place me at and the one they're now trying to place me at... parent reviews of the two schools: "This school is a dead end school. As a Prent/Guardian, I never seen a school that bad in my whole life" to "This is the greatest school on earth." And the real indicator, I think, comes from the students: "I am a student there and the children are out of control parents who do not go to the school during school hours can not even comment i feel bad for teachers who can't teach because the students are such a distraction.I am a senior this year graduating 2006" versus "No other high school could have equipped me better for coursework at Princeton and balancing academics and extracurriculars." Ouch.

Anyway, semester over!

Yay! And good on you for getting the placement thing straightened out.

Allyson, many people are saying good things wrt the crush. I will just reiterate your lovableness. Lovability. Whatever.

I'd kill to have a good heady crush

Psst -- that's not the best strategy, FYI.