Drat, I meant to say this before: much ~ma for Emily's stepfather.
Incidentally, "stepfather" is much nicer than " that thing my mother is married to" which is how I think of mine.
Zoe: Preacher, don't the Bible have some pretty specific things to say about killing? Book: Quite specific. It is, however, somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.
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Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind.
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WindSparrow - Nov 08, 2005 8:18:09 am PST #3502 of 10003
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
beth b - Nov 08, 2005 8:19:03 am PST #3503 of 10003
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I'd go over. bring food - otr offer to get food. don't force her out now. In a couple of weeks - that the force her out time.
Sparky1 - Nov 08, 2005 8:19:26 am PST #3504 of 10003
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Nora, I'd go with your instinct on this one. I think that if you show up with chocolate/ice cream or some other cure for a broken heart (a doctor friend of mine tells me the cure is a Benedryl and a shot of vodka) because that's what feels right to you, it's good.
SuziQ - Nov 08, 2005 8:19:32 am PST #3505 of 10003
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Not knowing your friend it is hard to say, but showing up with comfort food and a movie is usually a good way to help her chill and maybe open up.
WindSparrow - Nov 08, 2005 8:21:38 am PST #3506 of 10003
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Nora, from the sound of it, the bringing comfort for an evening in sounds like a better plan than dragging her out. Main thing is, you are there for her. And if it does seem like getting her out of the house is a good idea when you get there, well, you can play it by ear.
SuziQ - Nov 08, 2005 8:22:05 am PST #3507 of 10003
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
"stepfather" is much nicer than "that thing my mother is married to"
I use "My father's third wife" when I have to refer to her. Even though they have been married 16 years, she has never been a "step-mother" or "step-mom" or anything like that to me.
beth b - Nov 08, 2005 8:22:06 am PST #3508 of 10003
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
seriously, if she can't plan the next 10 min. show up , but be prepared to leave. For me, I am a 24-48 hour wallower. I get tired of the wallowing , no matter how bad I feel. However, over something seriousI might go in and out of wallow zone for awhile.
Nora Deirdre - Nov 08, 2005 8:23:01 am PST #3509 of 10003
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
she's sought solace at her folks' for the day, so I'll see what's going on once it's a little closer to quitting time. They might be doing well with providing the comfort without my help...
beth b - Nov 08, 2005 8:26:16 am PST #3510 of 10003
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
That sounds good Nora. flexibility is the key.
WindSparrow - Nov 08, 2005 8:50:03 am PST #3511 of 10003
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
I seriously do not want to go to work today.
Bosslady keeps telling me the new guy says I'm too bossy. I told bosslady I'd start talking to him like I talk to the clients, see if he notices. I'm also telling bosslady at least one of the clients does not like him. At. All. I can't give her meds to her if he is in the room.
He also complained that I don't show him how to do programs (exercises and daily living skills) with the clients like I should. Except that he had already been shown how to do them, and when I asked if he was comfortable doing them on his own, he said yes.