Dylan, thank you for that.
There is just 1 thing I want to address about what you said.
True tough love is supposed to be a shot of reality given with love. I see shots of reality, but I don’t see a lot of love.
I know you delurked relatively recently (compared to Susan, for instance), and I know that you did lurk in the past, but I don't know how extensively, or for how long. So, I don't know how much you've seen in the past of Susan coming in here and expressing her worry about Annabel, and, by extension, how much you've seen of the responses to her in the past (yesterday excluded).
The way people have responded to her worries in the past -- offering advice, sympathetic stories of their own children, reassurances -- is, to me, *very* loving. If yesterday wasn't loving, the past 18 months (and prior) have been. Please know that.
I really don't think it was tough love, it was more like people finally hitting the wall.
There are experienced parents here. There are parents of disabled people here. There are actual disabled people here. They deal with these issues, they have wisdom on the subject, they have extended themselves generously and repeatedly and been ignored or dismissed about ten BAGILLION times. Something had to give.
I was thinking I was being kind. We're just people, like she is, and some days it's not as easy to be hairstroke encouraging. Not to mention that I personally don't appreciate but a small amount of that without thinking "That's it. They think I'm mental."
So I think it is possible that Susan and I have never communicated well. But I don't wish any ill-will, honest, and can respect your urge to defend your spouse although the wording gave me some pangs.
I think I missed something in my skipping and skimming.
Shoot, I need to get my pictures together. There was a Tigger and a dinosaur with a butterfly tummy. Shoot about the pictures, not the missing out. Sounds like a good thing to miss out on.
I should be doing reading for class tomorrow but I don't wanna.
So I'm cruising the internet on the lovely free wireless at the hotel...
re: kerfuffle. I have many thoughts, but also doubts of the appropriateness of posting them at this point. I am glad there was an apology, but I am still completely shocked at the tone and phrasing of dw, both today and some stuff yesterday. I mean, whatever, I'm not sitting here crying or fanning myself like some sort of delicate flower, but...damn.
But, yes, apology. That's good. Thanks.
t /shutting up now
Why do the people in my office not recognize that my priorities are the ONLY priorities that matter. Geeeesh.
oh, see, I thought that was just me, Maidengurl! When will they ever learn?
Want husband here now. Want turkey dinner soon.
We got upgraded last week when we were at this hotel and now we're in a normal room and it certainly suffers by comparison. Oh, WOE.
OMG. Am ded from cute.
Friends had a baby in Feb. If we can come up with enough cows, he's totally our future SiL. ANYHOW, they just sent peektures of his first Halloween costume.
He was dressed as The Cheat. From Homestar Runner.
So. Fucking. Adorable.
