sounds productive Plei, good day.

ita, I sometimes really think you would benefit from a live-in mother.

Kat, that's a lot to take in. my thoughts are with you and your family.

I feel most sorry for my dad. And guilty, like I should fly home for the funeral which is Tuesday, which is also somewhat impractical and impossible.

That kind of emotional stuff is hard to figure out. I am sorry for the loss.

My parents came and watched Lillian (and Jeeves and Wooster, because I had to entertain them somehow). It's amazing how much more gets done when two people can do it.

My first job was watching the baby next door from like 5-6 every day, so his parents could make dinner. I started when he could just about sit up. I'm sure it was hugely helpful to his parents to be able to chat about the day and cook and everything, and I was only 10, so cheap labor.

I sometimes really think you would benefit from a live-in mother.

Her mother or any mother?

My mother is certainly not living in with me. And that's more her call than mine.

Believe me, I tried. Her plan instead, is to get me a live-in male caretaker, who counts impregnation amongst his duties. Although I've failed miserably in that regard, she's still not willing to live near me.

I am thinking not her mother, just a motherly person to do some things and to lay down some rules sometimes.

Yeah, I stopped visitng my Grandmother the last year of her life when she stopped recognising anyone. She had a loooong slide into dementia. She stopped knowing who I was for a couple of years, but was still glad to see me, so I always visited. Then she stopped being able to talk, but was still happy for company, so that was fine, since it clearly made her happy to have me there. Finally, she stopped being interested in people at all and slept most of the time. She got very good care, but my dad's health was so precarious by the end that I didn't want to take time away from him to spend the half day required to drive to the nursing home to sit at the bedside of a woman who had no idea I was there. He died about four months before she did.

ETA: It might mean something to your dad to write a letter about the good things you remember about his mom--thel etters, and whatever other memories you can dredge up. Then you can feel like you did something for him, which might make you feel better too.

a motherly person to do some things and to lay down some rules sometimes.

Can he be cute, and sometimes just lay with not so much rules?

see, it is just that type of thinking that makes me think you need decision making help. You are overtired and banged up, hitting it shouldn't be high on the list, missy.

to lay down some rules sometimes.

I'm not a motherly type, but I am bossy. I'll be happy to lay down some rules for ita.

You are overtired and banged up, hitting it shouldn't be high on the list, missy.

Hey, now. I was just talking cuddling.

Nah, I'm not going to argue against the point that I could do with a caretaker. In all honesty, I'm piss poor at taking care of myself when it gets like it is now.