Is alliterating Owen and Olivia too cheesy? I think it might be.

I don't think so. Olivia is a great name.

I probably shouldn't stress over the alliteration. Seeing how I'm a twin Lisa/Lori combo I've lived through worse. Even worse--our middle names being Faye/Kaye. I think my mother drank a lot.

It's like that damned McBroom childrens' book series where all the kids names come out in one line: willjillhesterchesterpeterpollytimtommarylarryandlittleclarinda. *shudder*

Olivia is beautiful.

It's only cheesy if you have third and fourth and fifth kids named Otto and Ophelia and Omar.

My real name is Virginia. I'm named for my mother who was named for her grandmother. I think one of y'all needs to take up the Virginia torch. It's a perfectly cromulent name. It's not particularly strange but it's never been very popular.

It's unusual without having unfortunate connotations. I think of Ginger as more problematic.

It all depends where you're standing. I was teased about my name, so I see unfortunate connotations.

But I love it, so I don't care.

It's only cheesy if you have third and fourth and fifth kids named Otto and Ophelia and Omar.

• shudder* At the thought of five kids, not the names.

I was called gingerbread a lot. Also, my middle name is Quinn, and I took a lot of "Quinn the Eskimo" ribbing. I suspect that no name is safe.

I suspect that no name is safe.

Kids are so cruel. That's pretty much a given. I knew a kid in grade school that could come up with a disgusting rhyme to match any given name. But he picked his nose a lot and didn't graduate high school so look where that got him.

So, I'm taking advantage of this Rosh Hashanah to do a lot of reading about Judaism. Specifically, gauging whether it makes sense to me, and reading up on basic advice for possible way-pre-converts.

It's annoying.

In order to marry my current girlfriend and be accepted by her community and family, who worship in Orthodox synagogues, I would have to convert Orthodox. This, however, would most likely (though not necessarily for absolute certain - I'm still getting details) require testifying before a religious court that I will always dress in a certain way, and will avoid physical contact with the opposite sex, and will not swim in mixed company. I may have to say I would not attend a family wedding held in a Christian church, or a funeral.

I can't do that. The annoying thing is, SHE doesn't follow these laws. She doesn't believe them. She has actually been known to get ANGRY at the mention of such laws. She actively avoids socializing with people who follow such laws. She gets away from synagogue as quickly as possible after each service, so as to avoid a throng of Orthodox Jew-boys throwing themselvs at her (without touching.) I'm pretty sure, based on the reading I've been doing, that she's much more a Conservative than an Orthodox, except for a very small number of traditions that are enough to keep her in the Orthodox world.

Most of the things she believes and does, I could promise to do. All of them, in fact, if I had to guess. I can believe in G-d - as presented in Judaism, it's almost easy for me. I can follow Shabaat laws and Kosher laws. I can observe holidays, and study Hebrew, and send my children to Jewish day schools. It would take some serious internal contemplation and thought for me to decide to do these things, major deliberation, but at least they aren't something I have to declare impossible. But that's not enough. It's quite likely that I'd get rejected for Orthodox conversion, just for believing exactly as the girl I'm trying to marry believes.

So why not convert to Conservative or Reform instead? After all, Conservatives are still Jewish, so at least the cultural divide is somewhat removed, even if we couldn't get married by her home Rabbi (who she disagrees with about most stuff anyway), right? WRONG. Conservative converts are not Jewish in the eyes of the Orthodox church. Technically, marrying a converted Conservative would be a (horror!) intermarriage. Marrying a Jewish guy who was raised Reform and is adamantly atheistic would be a Jewish marriage (if not ideal), but marrying a converted Conservative, NSM.

So in order to get married to this girl, I might have to confess a belief in things she actively HATES. Because it's okay to not believe those things and still be Orthodox, but it's not okay to not believe them and CONVERT to Orthodox.

She cares about the opinion of the Orthodox church?