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He's probably supposed to do 30 meetings in 30 days, but the odds would be better if he'd stayed in rehab longer.

True. But a lot of drinkers are like a lot of smokers, it takes more than a few tries for quitting to stick. I had a cousin who had 3 DUIs and got sued by a step-brother for a car accident before he finally got his shit together and got sober. He's been sober for over 5 years, now. But it took a lot to get him to quit. The biggest thing was the family finally got together and told him, you're on your own, we are not bailing you out of this, not paying for the lawyer, etc. Tough love does work.

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{{{Cass}}}

Susan, or others: I have a job to illustrate 6 characters, 5 men and 1 woman, from 1849. A couple of the men are British Navy. Any idea for websites that would provide visual references for clothes and hairstyles?

Hmm, Raq, that's a bit out of my era. If it was 1812 I'd be all over it, but most of my favorite costume sites really are that specialized. I'll poke around and see what I can find.

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I must admit, I didn't think he'd stay in treatment for the whole 30 days but I was selfishly hoping he'd get through at least the weekend what with the whole 30-40 people at an all-day beach party and bonfire to celebrate the niecelet's 16th... Fuck, the potential for drama is just palpable.

Why does stress lead me to write magnificently running on sentences with inadequate punctuation?

Antabuse

Thank you! My brain kept coming up with Accutane which it damn well knows is the wrong, if acne-free, name.

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but I was selfishly hoping he'd get through at least the weekend what with the whole 30-40 people at an all-day beach party and bonfire to celebrate the niecelet's 16th... Fuck, the potential for drama is just palpable.

Yeah, there's just nothing selfish about that whatsoever.

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And this is his second try. Apparently he did detox after a binge-y Fourth of July which stuck until just over a week ago. I really wish he'd stayed inpatient a while longer. It worries me that he didn't. Relapses might be part of recovery but thou shalt not fuck with my family, especially the shorter members, or I shall gut you with a spork.

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I'm worried about the short stay myself in regards to your sister drawing the damn line in the damn sand.

"You're not coming back into this house until you've been in rehab 30 days" seems reasonable and I thought that's what the deal was.

sighhhhhh

Oh Cassiepants...

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and I thought that's what the deal was.

It was. She wants to keep her family together and I get that. I just don't know if that is the best thing for her family because I don't see him getting a real ephiphany in four days (max, as I don't know when he left treatment but he went in Tuesday) and realizing that he can really never drink again.

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Yeah, that would be a pretty quick epiphany.

And the 'NoBooze' or whatever its called seems... redundant for a guy who freakin' RISKS HIS DIABETIC LITTLE LIFE by drinking at all.

Your poor sister. I know this isn't easy and there may well BE no "right" way to do it at all.

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So sorry all y'all bitches are having a hard time today. "That's the trouble with this job. Ain't got nothing to do with life." Know you're in my thoughts today.

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Fay,

Life seems to have treated me with unexpected kindness on the job front - although I guess it could just be that they're hiding their evil rather better than the last guy.

My vote is the unexpected kindness is long coming and heard earned.

And thanks for the job~ma. I'll know by the end of the day Monday and I'm having a hell of a time figuring out what the hell to do.

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