I think the original article took far too simplistic a view of human sexuality and human emotions w/r/t relationships/sex. After I see a chick flick, I *don't* go home to my cats and ice cream and feel more lonely than ever. And it's simplistic to imply that women do that.
t nods
That article none-too-subtly implied that traditionally male escapist fantasies like action and horror are OK, but
female
fantasies are dangerous, with all that emphasis on love and romance. While it's possible that I'm reading it too much through the lens of my collegiate experience, I
do
think they're condemning all romance, chick lit, chick flicks, etc. And IIRC that website is an affiliate of Focus on the Family, which I certainly wish I could call a fringe group, but given their influence and reach, I really can't.
I don't think their views have reached the everyday people in the pews yet--there you still have a wide range of views, with probably more people like Cindy or like the other altos in my choir who think it's cool that I'm writing a romance novel. But it still scares and infuriates me that they're trying.
For me D&D is first and foremost a social activity, otherwise known as an Opportunity to Snark; and I go for doing that in person.
The social aspect was definitely the best part. I tended to modify the rules to make things less tactical.
I don't blame you. Bleah.
Maybe you get everlasting life that way. Maybe it just *feels* like forever.
good luck giving away your blood maidengurl -- and nice to see you around.
I thik the tone from the article that article was very much if you do A than B will happen ( like Steph said, but boht ways- if you see female porn bad things happen - if you don't, good thing happen) . Cindy's discussion was much more interesting. But I thought the whole thing was odd more because it sounded like it was adressing people that weren't really interested in such things anayway. If you watch such thing , and have a real view of things - it won't have anyeffect. If you have a problem , there's nothing to help you face the problem . and there didn't seem to be any indication of how to help your teenage daughter with unrealistic expectations . In otherwords, it didn't really have much more than a scolding point.
and I am typeing this before I am coherent.
Timelies.
Busy day, vw. You can do it!
I have to look at that definition of porn again, but if what I'm remembering is correct from my skipping and skimming yesterday, I've got a hell of a lot of porn in my life.
When I was a teenager, my mother (probably talking about TV, but maybe something else, I disremember) once said to me, "If something is becoming more important than people, the something is likely a problem, and you have to re-prioritize."
This is so sensible. If you're hating on your husband because he can't/won't live up to the idealized guys in romances or chick flicks, then you might have a problem. But if you read/watch for simple enjoyment, or you're inspired to say, "Hey, honey, guess what Cinnamon Lovestruck and Studly McHero did in this romance I just read, let's try it," certainly no harm done there.
Also, what Teppy said about the perception of single women home alone with their cats and ice cream.
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ImememeN, my father-in-law's sister is here for his birthday. He's 80 today, and I think she's a year or two younger. Their first topic of conversation? The comparative price of milk in different parts of the country.
This is going to be a very long day.
Their first topic of conversation? The comparative price of milk in different parts of the country.
Well, it's a significant issue after Katrina shut down all the Gulf coast milk refineries.
I have no children, but I work with children a lot. So I find articles on parenting and children in groups ( peer pressure starts wayyyy early) really interesting - in a mostly theoretical way. and I think the role of fantasy in real life is best taught at home. Because each kid is different. Some kids have to be taken away from thier fantasy - like my friends youngest chikld who was a apower ranger fan- and was constantly - even when he kne w it was inappropriate - played power rangers. he was told no more , until he remember to behave properly and that hittng and kicking were not nice. They had to go back and forth for awhile, but he learned. I think I was the opposite. I was a very serious child- and very literal. So the books about brownies and faries - gave me a play to play where I wasn't violateing what I though the real world was. and my mom's talk when we first started reaing bodice rippers - " that's not what sex is really like" - was all I needed to put expectations in a better place.
Plus Katrina caused a milk tanker to run aground in the Gulf. Disaster was narrowly averted when the National Guard decided not to wait for FEMA authorizaion to activate the Emergency Cat Division.
Disaster was narrowly averted when the National Guard decided not to wait for FEMA authorizaion to activate the Emergency Cat Division.
Which authorization might've come in a lot sooner if W hadn't had appointed a (wealthy and conservative) terrier to head Operation Spilled Milk.
