You're DH's boss needs to meet a cluestick.

He's a workaholic who has no kids. He's nice and smart but he seems to think everyone else has as loose a schedule as he does.

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I'm sorry, Gud.

Being a good person doesn't mean every marriage will work. And you really are a good man, and have worked very hard in good faith (so to speak) to deal with the issues in your marriage.

I hope it can be saved. And if it can't, I hope you and your wife can deal with it calmly.

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He's a workaholic who has no kids. He's nice and smart but he seems to think everyone else has as loose a schedule as he does.

God, I couldn't even deal. I am so opposed to the concept of employment owning non-company time (especially weekends). I know that every job is different, and I know this is why i will never make decent money. But, man. I'm pissed off enough that Tom's work is requiring him to go to a social event/company dinner thing on Saturday night.

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He's a workaholic who has no kids. He's nice and smart but he seems to think everyone else has as loose a schedule as he does.

It's no excuse. The DH and I have both had several bosses who were single and childless and workaholics, but who said "You need your own time, we only rent you for x hours" and stuck to it.

Gud, what Hec said. No playing the Blame Game, especially not at yourself.

(emails Emily some of the stew, which came out yum)

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in mememe news, I've been talking to a nurse thru our health insurance. - I guess when they have someone with a chronic disease they like othave them talk with health proffessionals so they ( the paitents) can get more info about the disease in a setting that is not the rush of the doctor's office. The first few calls were kinda annoying - because she knew nothing about me and what i knew about my diseases. Now that she knows me and that i am really invovled in m,y own health issues she is giving me all kinds of info that I had read but didn't truely understand. I had resolved to head back to the gym this weekfor my asthma and High BP. I wasn't sure how much difference it was going to make with the diabetes - some I knew - but I am hopeful it will make a big difference.

I go back tomorrow. Oddly, I am actually looking forward to this. should fid my gym clothes. Migh need new shorts. That's my reward if I go 2x this week.

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{{{Gud}}}

I'm famous/notorious at my current job for putting in 12-18 hour days/7-days a week when I think a project requires it. But if you want to see my best mule imitation, try insisting that I come in on a weekend. I'm single and child-free, but that doesn't mean I lack family commitments.

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beth, I hope the exercise helps. My grandmother developed Type II (of course, she was much much much much older than you) and just walking and drinking a lot of water had a great positive effect on her blood sugar management. My two cousins who developed Type II in their forties also found exercise to be a big help. For a few years, one of them was able to go med free, once he lost weight, as long as he kept exercising. I'm just mentioning this, because even if you find some sorts of exercise exacerbate your asthma, there may be some types you can do, that will help you regulate your sugar and won't irritate your lungs.

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I just applied for a job I saw on craigslist. I have no expectations (online stuff always seems sketchy to me), but there is really no downside so my fingers are crossed.

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I guess when they have someone with a chronic disease they like othave them talk with health proffessionals so they ( the paitents) can get more info about the disease in a setting that is not the rush of the doctor's office.

I have a friend who does exactly this, also with diabetes. She would love to have you as a patient, informed and caring about their own health.

Good luck on the job app, Stephanie.

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Exercise makes a difference. i'm just not sure that more exercise at levels that will increase my VO2 max will make a difference in diabetes. right now this is my normal level of exercise:

walk 2 hours 4- 5 times a week at work - shopping pace ( think slow)

garden 45 min to 2 hours 5-6 days a week

walk to the coffee shop 15 minutes brisk 1x week

walk from the coffee shop 15 min brisk 2-3x a week ( matt drops me there on his way to work)

gardening will slack off because 1) it doesn't need it anymore and 2) winter is comming.

what I want to add is 3-4 seesion for 30 min at target heart rate. so when spring comes around next year the garden work will go faster and hopefull the asthma will be better. and I'd like to change my High bp drug from a diuretic and ace inhibitor to just an ace inhibitor. 10 less lbs would also be cool. ( 17 would be better)

P.S. I used to be a slug. I marvel at how much I do now.

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