Well, yes. I probably should have. But, you know what? I didn't. Also, I wasn't really asking for advice about this decision.

Damn straight.

Oh, Tep. I am so sorry. I do not get it. I really really don't. I mean, I get how you feel. I feel like that still. I just don't get why boys in Cincinatti are not all over ya. Seriously.

I think you need to move, for real.

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Oh, Tep. Gah. I'm so glad you had a good sympathetic pizza-baking friend there for you. And I fucking hate Crush!Boy -- rationally, I know that he's probably doing exactly what Cindy was talking about, heading you off at the pass and trying to do it gently precisely because he does care about you, but irrationally, I hate him.

You're smart, witty, sexy and sexually aware, truthful and loyal and a gifted writer and you have just uncannily perfect lips, and anyone who causes you to doubt yourself and feel bleak and unlovable and like all your whispering demons are whispering the truth, not to mention causes you to cry in front of a bunch of people you don't know that well -- the person who does that to you is someone I fucking hate with a deep burning passion. My dearest hope for him is that the next woman he falls hard for turns out to be an unrepentant Bush supporter with head lice.

Also, what everyone else said, but, as usual, most of all what Robin said.

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And I fucking hate Crush!Boy -- rationally, I know that he's probably doing exactly what Cindy was talking about, heading you off at the pass and trying to do it gently precisely because he does care about you, but irrationally, I hate him.

I don't think it's irrational to hate him, JZ. I think it is fun. I just think Teppy's deciding his horrible choice in women or utter lack of sex drive means thing one about her is faulty logic.

He's probably a nice EXTRAORDINARILY STUPID, DEAF, DUMB, BLIND, SEXLESS, BENEATH BITCH CONTEMPT guy, who didn't want to hurt her because for the one moment her managed to be right thinking, he was able to discern that she is a person worthy of respectful treatment.

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I don't hate a guy just because he isn't attracted to someone I think is fabulous. Hell, I am friends with several guys who weren't attracted to me--I mean there were LOTS of them over the years, it stands to reason some of them would end up my friends! One of BF's closest friends is a woman who dumped him after dating him for three weeks in Grad School. She's a great person, even if she couldn't see the splendidness which is the BF. One of his other friends is a woman who went out on one date with him and in the middle of dinner said "This isn't working for me." After a year or so, they met up again and have been friends ever since. We used to have dinner with her every month before she moved away from LA and once again, an awesome person except for the not digging BF part.

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Coming in very late on this, but Steph, I'm sorry this (one and only one guy who is obviously just not the right one but instead was just a placeholder so you didn't forget how to have a crush on someone and how goofily nice it can be to have a crush while you are having it) didn't work out for you.

Sometime, life is the one that sucks.

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Sucks, Tep. I hate crush deflation, it's of the great pain.

I agree with all the other Bitches that this is not evidence that you're never gonna get the True Love on. Don't let it destroy you like that - you're gold material, and somebody WILL realize that, someday. I have faith.

This probably doesn't make you feel any better, since we're on to hating the guy now, but... he could also change his mind, given the opportunity. I think that might be happening for me, with the girl who Just Friendsed me a month or so ago (though I'm not really sure).

Not that you'd ever deign to let him do that, since he sucks a lot and also doesn't know who Tim Drake is because he's a cretin. A CRETIN.

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Hell, I am friends with several guys who weren't attracted to me--I mean there were LOTS of them over the years,

Wait. There are more than two people in the world that don't find Robin attractive? Didn't they see your shiny hair? Didn't they see your smile? Didn't they talk to you for more than a minute?

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I don't hate a guy just because he isn't attracted to someone I think is fabulous.

Well Teppy already gave me permission to hate him, so there.

Hell, I am friends with several guys who weren't attracted to me

Clearly, you choose the craxy as friends. Actually, I think that was already confirmed. Erm.

*jazz hands jazz hands*

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JZ is currently decorating the video box for Jilli's collection of Goth videos that I have snagged for her out of the TiVo. I have sacrificed my beautiful Premiere cover of Winona Ryder with a perfect Louise Brooks bob and vampish makeup closing her eyes and bending her neck to a looming Gary Oldman for the cause. (Honestly, it's the most glamorous picture of Winona I've ever seen.)

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My dearest hope for him is that the next woman he falls hard for turns out to be an unrepentant Bush supporter with head lice.

Look, we all acknowledge that he's an ass who doesn't know what he's missing. But wishing a "woman" like that on any man, that's just cruel. I mean, why don't you just wish he get his penis chopped off in a zipper while you're at it? Or that he has unprotected sex with Paris Hilton?

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