like how I fear my pro-elopment stance makes me sound like a fuckhole to people who had lovely non-elopement ceremonies and receptions

Dude, I had a lovely NEC&R, and I'm pro-elopment as a result.

The hateful people in the Child Free movement, the ones who complain about the added benefits people with children supposedly get from jobs, and who call kids "crotch droppings" make me want to kick them in the head, repeatedly.

That said, I can understand not wanting kids, and think it's a perfectly delightful choice, just not the one I made.

"I/we have so much yet to do! Also, a child would probably break us financially".

You're never ready for kids. They're cool though.

a friend of mine wrote about this for Salon way back when, and she still gets notes from perfect strangers.

That was a great article.

"wait, everyone else on earth wants kids but me?" hits and I feel like a total dork who missed the hormonal memo.

I can identify with that. I don't want kids, never have. Most people respond with, "Oh, you'll change your mind." I'm 37 years old. When is this mind change supposed to happen?

note: I do not think parenthood would be easy or always fun. I sometimes think it would be nifty, though.

It is that! Though not easy or always fun.

What's funny and sometimes maddening is that Tom's dr. won't give him a vasectomy and mine won't give me an IUD because we're too young and those are options for "families." i.e., people with children.

Ah, well, the Nuva ring works fine, and is covered by insurance. I'd buy it full price anyway (and have).

I'm still not sure. Coffee first, maybe? :) Although I'm thinking at this rate, probably not. Could happen, I suppose.

"crotch droppings"

That's just foul. Why do people suck? If I were them growing up I'd have hated children too. If that makes sense. Which it doesn't, really.

I don't get the child hate at all. Jeez, you don't even have the stress of raising kids, why are you raising you blood pressure over every little thing ANYWAY??

"crotch droppings"

gnnnng. I had to ask someone not to use that term in my presence. And they didn't get WHY I might not approve of it. "But you don't want kids! Why should you care what I call them?!"

I need some help. I'm suddenly not doing well. I have meds to go pick up, and I'm scared. And Emily's not answering the phone. And I'm by myself.

I don't get the child hate at all. Jeez, you don't even have the stress of raising kids, why are you raising you blood pressure over every little thing ANYWAY??

I think it's because those people are actually selfish little children and hate the competition.

Nora, can you find a doc who specializes in painful periods and is willing to use the Mirena as a treatment? (My OB does and will, as I learned when getting mine.)

Oh, and yes, still loving the thing.