I sometimes feel so weird not wanting children- it makes so much sense to me not to have any, I am starting to feel like a total freak because I, ah, don't get it. Not looking for comfort or argument, or anything, just all of a sudden... I feel so WEIRD. It comes and goes, it's an almost physical thing.
What's FAR MORE WEIRD, imo, is those people who have children when "it's time", when in actuality, they feel as you do. The coming and going probably is a physical thing. Since when do hormones pay a lot of attention to the brain?
I sometimes feel so weird not wanting children- it makes so much sense to me not to have any, I am starting to feel like a total freak because I, ah, don't get it.
You are not alone. I've known I didn't want kids since I was 15. 22 years ago. I'm the world's biggest waver at cute sprogs being walked on the local trails or waiting in line at the grocery store. But I've never had the desire to have one of my own.
I feel the same way about Brad Pitt, French Provincal furniture, and hamsters, so I figure it's a different strokes for different folks situation.
Nora, a friend of mine wrote about this for Salon way back when, and she still gets notes from perfect strangers.
You are not alone! I talk about having kids, but I'm not actually sure I want any. I love other people's children.
I sometimes feel so weird not wanting children- it makes so much sense to me not to have any, I am starting to feel like a total freak because I, ah, don't get it.
Nah, I get what you mean -- I'm normally down with not wanting 'em, and happy to join in name convos and the like without getting any ovary twinges, and then all of a sudden the "wait, everyone else on earth wants kids but me?" hits and I feel like a total dork who missed the hormonal memo. (The 5 kids in a year in my 16-person department doesn't help with this.)
I think ita is a excellent name! I like names that are different, but not so different they'll get you beat up in first grade. My own first name (which I changed when I was sixteen) got me a LOT of grief.
oops, my delete finger was too fast. I gotta stop that habit. I post and then have poster's remorse. I had originally posted:
I sometimes feel so weird not wanting children- it makes so much sense to me not to have any, I am starting to feel like a total freak because I, ah, don't get it. Not looking for comfort or argument, or anything, just all of a sudden... I feel so WEIRD. It comes and goes, it's an almost physical thing.
I feel the same way about Brad Pitt, French Provincal furniture, and hamsters
Crap. There go all my Christmas gift ideas for you.
My boss is, with no prior warning or word, doing interviews. Which freaks my shit right out cause once I helped find the person who replaced me, without knowing it. Now I like to know what position people are here for -- just to be sure it isn't my jop that they want.
So, I'm having a little panic attack... Flushed, heart flutters, the works.
Second person comes in, my boss is showing her around and goes to introduce me. She forgets my name. Completely. I handed her one of my cards and wacky hijinks ensued.
Also? Production artists are what we are looking for, specifically for a few BIG HUGE OMG annual projects that are going to start again soon. Whew.
"wait, everyone else on earth wants kids but me?" hits and I feel like a total dork who missed the hormonal memo.
Per-zactly.
I love my niece and nephew and very much wish they lived closer so I could be more a part of their lives.
Nora, I thought maybe you deleted it because you decided not to talk about it, but since it seems to be okay... you are so not alone. I've never wanted kids. Never had the urge, not a twinge. I often think there must be something wrong with me. My friends all tease me about my complete lack of a maternal instinct. I enjoy other people's kids (well, okay, not all of them) and watching them develop is a wonder, but I don't want any of my own. I think I'd be a horrible parent.
