It saves a lot of time and some angst, Cindy. That's what being 16 and attracted to Chris L. taught me.
You'll fight, and you'll shag, and you'll hate each other till it makes you quiver, but you'll never be friends.
Spike ,'Sleeper'
Natter 37: Oddly Enough, We've Had This Conversation Before.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Kat - Aug 12, 2005 11:47:55 am PDT #7818 of 10002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Topic!Cindy - Aug 12, 2005 11:48:41 am PDT #7819 of 10002
What is even happening?
I hear ya. I learned it well from David M., Kat.
§ ita § - Aug 12, 2005 11:48:45 am PDT #7820 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
it's been since I was 16 since I was attracted to someone who was toxic for me. And that pretty much taught me that I should be careful and picky about choosing people to even think about getting groiny with.
I've been attracted to a number of guys with whom a relationship would have been a mistake. I've acted upon some of those attractions, eschewed the relationship, and was perfectly fine with how things turned out. I'm very comfortable with separating the two, and have been told that's a bad thing ... but I'd've had so much less fun that way.
As for the dog-kicking thing .. there are personality things that can detract from lust -- but I don't equate lust and physical attraction, because I can't envision a realistic opportunity to go from watching a guy to sleeping with him without any personality inbetween. So...lust. Dog-kicking would nix that. Other relationship-killing behaviours mightn't, since that's not what I was signing them up for.
juliana - Aug 12, 2005 11:49:36 am PDT #7821 of 10002
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Or my favorite, likes me first = I am attracted back.
This is the catalyst for most of my relationships. I'm a wimp.
§ ita § - Aug 12, 2005 11:51:15 am PDT #7822 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
This is the catalyst for most of my relationships.
If there was one thing that'd make me grateful for being a chick today, that'd be it -- that it's almost okay to kick back and wait.
Except, I'm perenially single, so maybe it isn't.
I do believe that if a guy wants me, he'll make it clear, and we can go from there. Problem is, I can't read signals for shit, and I'm never sure what the next step is anyway.
shrift - Aug 12, 2005 11:59:19 am PDT #7823 of 10002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I think I need to get a Coke and some Cheetos, and hang a sign on my office door that reads, "DO NOT DISTURB THE DATA BURNINATOR."
sarameg - Aug 12, 2005 12:00:33 pm PDT #7824 of 10002
"DO NOT DISTURB THE DATA BURNINATOR."
You just reminded me I need to go clear some disks.
And it is 5 and I was about to go home. Pfft.
Kat - Aug 12, 2005 12:03:02 pm PDT #7825 of 10002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
You should have Blue Pepsi and hot Cheetos, Shrift. That is the preferred meal for LAUSD students.
I finished what I needed to write for my writing group and then some. with an hour to spare even! WOO HOO! I rock. Even for a procrastinator.
And I got a DVD in the mail of the television show my previous students did for a local station. Go them. Even if the announcer mispronounces my name in the end.
Daisy Jane - Aug 12, 2005 12:03:50 pm PDT #7826 of 10002
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
EEEEEE!!!! Speaking of love and lust and stuff, one of my best friends is head over heels! She's never like this. She's usually Ms. keepherdistanceIdon'treallyneedyousowhatever, and now she's all drawing hearts and flowers on notebooks while she's at work.
All together now, "Awwwwwwwww!"
Topic!Cindy - Aug 12, 2005 12:04:42 pm PDT #7827 of 10002
What is even happening?