Brown, silver and ivory!

Thanks, Cashmere. That helps a lot.

DH, by the way, is totally supportive of the not working thing. All worries about the rightness of it are from inside my own brain.

Don't ask don't tell, Aimee. She's going to be very surprised when she realizes on her wedding day that she has no idea what anyone not her is doing. Or maybe not so much with the realizing, but if she's thinking about what her bridesmaids are doing while she's doing her last minute get ready dance, she's one hell of a multitasker.

Oh she'll know what we're doing - the wedding planner will tell her.

That she'll have the energy and attention at that point to care is what I find incredible. My bridesmaids could have sprouted wings and flown around the room while I was getting ready and I doubt I'd have known until I saw it in the pictures.

She put "narc on the bridesmaids" in the wedding planner's job description?

She put "narc on the bridesmaids" in the wedding planner's job description?

Oh, I'm sure it's there.

thanks her lucky stars that all her friends are independent bohemian-types who can't afford to put on ritzy weddings

mentally separates "bohemian" from "boho" and "Rent-bohemian", as well as "Bohemian", for she believes most of her friends' ancestors do not hail from the area now known as the Czech Republic

desperately wishes the blue Sudafed would work on her, and wanders off in search of her brain

wonders why "separate" is so hard to remember how to spell

Aimee, is it possible to be drunk through most of the wedding weekend?

the bride has gove over the edge. I thought that you chose your friends to be BM and they like hanging out together and and like haveing the bride as a friend in common. so stragne.

By the way ( puts on femminist hat ). Staying home, not working in a paying job is NOT and I repeat NOT being supported by a man. Yes he is bringing home the money. however haveing someone do the cooking, cleaning, etc - saves money over going out all the time and haveing some one else do it.Plus haveing someone stayhome to wait for the fuernace guy or the elctrician , etc is priceless. If you work it right - evenings and weekeknds can be for fun , not chores. One person working for money, one person working for comfort is amazing.

I'm no martha stuart. My house is rarely at it's best. ( It was better when I wasn't working) . I work part time and make decent money doing it. while it would be nice if I worked full time, we both appreciate the fact that my schedual gives us a lot of flexibility in how/when house stuff get done.

It's not being supported by a man, so much as being supported by your spouse. Which has no inherent evil to it -- you did marry the guy, after all.

I can't tell you what my bridemaids were doing on my wedding day but I know they werebusy doing gruntwork and running bullshit interference for me so I didn't have any stress. These are not the people you want pissed at you.