the bride has gove over the edge. I thought that you chose your friends to be BM and they like hanging out together and and like haveing the bride as a friend in common. so stragne.
By the way (
puts on femminist hat
). Staying home, not working in a paying job is NOT and I repeat NOT being supported by a man. Yes he is bringing home the money. however haveing someone do the cooking, cleaning, etc - saves money over going out all the time and haveing some one else do it.Plus haveing someone stayhome to wait for the fuernace guy or the elctrician , etc is priceless. If you work it right - evenings and weekeknds can be for fun , not chores. One person working for money, one person working for comfort is amazing.
I'm no martha stuart. My house is rarely at it's best. ( It was better when I wasn't working) . I work part time and make decent money doing it. while it would be nice if I worked full time, we both appreciate the fact that my schedual gives us a lot of flexibility in how/when house stuff get done.
It's not being supported by a man, so much as being supported by your spouse. Which has no inherent evil to it -- you did marry the guy, after all.
I can't tell you what my bridemaids were doing on my wedding day but I know they werebusy doing gruntwork and running bullshit interference for me so I didn't have any stress. These are not the people you want pissed at you.
Aimee, is it possible to be drunk through most of the wedding weekend?
I'd be willing to test this theory.
If you work it right - evenings and weekeknds can be for fun , not chores. One person working for money, one person working for comfort is amazing.
beth, this is exactly my plan. Having someone else's words to throw at the stupid voices in my head really helps shut them up. Thank you.
I am now giggling at the image of a wedding planner racing down a hallway yelling "Red Alert! There are two bridesmaids at adjacent tables at the breakfast buffet, and one of them is trying to borrow salt!"
Jessica, did you like being a barista?
And anyway, I thought it was only bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding.
Apparently it's bad luck to know the bride before the wedding.
My wedding was very small and my sister was my only attendant, because she would have been pissed off if I had chosen anyone else. I know what my friends were doing the day of the wedding, though. They were stealing greenery to decorate the chapel.
I have a new great-nephew.
I'm just trying to figure out how the bride managed to take the tradition that brides and grooms aren't supposed to see each other before the wedding and managed to extrapolate it to the entire wedding party.
I loved it, Aim. NSM the waking up at 4:30 am to go to work part, but I had great customers, and I was the motherfucking QUEEN of working the bar. And for a college student, the pay was pretty good (plus, free coffee).