I'm going to call them tomorrow to see what the scoop is. Maybe they sent out the wrong paperwork?

Yeah, it doesn't hurt to ask and try to get them to keep things the way they are.

Also, thanks everyone for saying that I don't suck.

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I know some people who have thrown showers recently who felt it was easier to have them at a restaurant so they could relax and enjoy themselves rather than worry about doing a ton of cooking and having to do all the clean up.

Good point, and very true. But I know my friend was unhappy because while the MoH wanted a very special shower for her sister, for my friend ponying up over $400 for the shower wasn't easy. If you want to do, that's wonderful, but you have to make sure the other bridesmaids can afford it, too.

Right up there with Kiddie Birthday Inflation.

This has gotten insane. Parties for two-year-olds at Little Gym or Chuck E. Cheese, with goodie bags for every kid, *plus* age-appropriate goodie bags for the littler siblings. It's not a case where you're being asked to pay your way, and with two-year-olds it's not so much an issue, but some of the parties for four-year-olds and up? Leads to the inevitable, "But *I* want a party at Ridiculously Overpriced Venue *with* a clown and face painting and gourmet cake and..."

Kids satisfied with homemade cake and a donkey's ass are a thing of the past.

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Also, thanks everyone for saying that I don't suck.

How could you suck? You have a book nook.

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also, am relieved that I have no crazy wedding/shower/baby shower/ kid birthday party stories. This is what happens when you become a misanthrope!

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If you want to do, that's wonderful, but you have to make sure the other bridesmaids can afford it, too.

Which, is how I feel about this whole thing. The Bridesmaids were emailed with basically, "This is what we're doing and this is how much you need to pony up." which struck me as very arrogant and very cowholeish.

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I also have no patience with B'maid E. Her and I spoke one evening and I vented. She, in turn, told B about it. I could have killed her. Ever since then, everytime she asks how I am. "I'm fine! Everything is great!" Stupid Bitca.

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The Bridesmaids were emailed with basically, "This is what we're doing and this is how much you need to pony up." which struck me as very arrogant and very cowholeish.

Yikes. Whatever happened to basic manners? You know, asking something like, "I was thinking about doing this shower at a restaurant. What do you think and how much would you be able to pitch in? Based on our budget, we can figure out what to do/where to go."

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Ah, now I get it.

Yep. Didn't help that I got a bill for some little portion of my fun UTI experience several months back (might have been my co-pay actually as their accounting is never accurate) and just walking in the door, telling him what was wrong and the pee test was about $300. And I knew what was wrong. Right now? Not a clue. But I just made an appointment to see my doctor Thursday for my back. COBRA won't be set up yet, but I actually finally believe it will be. And my back hurts enough that I am willing to "pay out of pocket."

eta: Nope, $200. But $175 is walking in the door. Okay, I am prepared.

"Hmmm... I want to give Cass some grief!" pulls out frying pan, tortillas, some nice cheese, a little sliced avocado on the side and some benadryl

You totally get to make the rules.

Ever since then, everytime she asks how I am.

And expects you to answer? Wow, whole special level of stupid there.

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{{{{{vw}}}}}}

Rise, Tom Scola. I accept the offering of your humility in my presence. Alas, I am not yet a powerful enough goddess to instantly disappear a sample of salsa from my kitchen into a bowl for you to partake of. However, if you spread the Good Salsa News, and make minions converts, my power shall grow and you will be rewarded with eternal salsa.

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Mmmm..... salsa.

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