Now I will have to endure the shame of my parents as they give me the "you could do better" every time we talk.

But at least it's familiar, right? Sorry they can't change their tune. (But seriously, not that different from many parents. Mine have different verses from your parents, but a remarkably similar chorus).

I was thinking of you this weekend. My Kung Fu school had a beach party, and I met the (white) girlfriend of one of the (Indian) instructors. I mentioned something about having a friend who was struggling with similar. The girlfriend said something about his family not being as traditional (I believe the phrase second-generation may have been thrown in), but she still seemed kinda uncomfortable (actually made me wonder if I may have accidentally trod upon toes). Anyway, umm, thought of you this weekend.

Jeez, sometimes my username just really exerts its accuracy, dunnit?

When I told my mom in undergrad that I was going to be just a theatre major and drop my other majors her response was, "But why would you do that, theatre is what talented people do."

Isn't the Passive-Aggressive vibe an amazing thing?

That's true, Hec, but still and all, nobody needs to start saving boxes yet. Apart from any possible omens, I hate that he does that.

So, the shower is in the room the MoH has purchased using points from her husbands travels. We (the guests) are invited to hang there or by the pool, then have the shower in the room, followed by the Bachlorette Party dinner whatever and then, we can all cram into the room for 10 of us to sleep there.

This is too much. It's way way beyond tacky into insanity.I think you should use what Andi wrote. I know you don't want to get The Bride involved with this, but she may not have any idea of what the MoH is doing and should probably know.

Oh, *I* don't have Teh Cramps

I do.

Ack! Epic, I have to reschedule the ice cream on Friday. I just got an email from the friends I cat sat for last weekend saying how much they were looking forward to seeing me on Friday. I totally had forgotten that I either invited them over or invited myself to their place... Dolt! It was in the future when I did it, therefore not real to me.

Ack! Epic, I have to reschedule the ice cream on Friday. I just got an email from the friends I cat sat for last weekend saying how much they were looking forward to seeing me on Friday. I totally had forgotten that I either invited them over or invited myself to their place... Dolt! It was in the future when I did it, therefore not real to me.

No worries, some other time. I'm beyond booked on Saturday, but perhaps on Sunday, or next weekend...it'll happen.

"But why would you do that, theatre is what talented people do."

Ow. (You obvioulsy exemplify the adage, "Living well is the best revenge.")

My parents' version of this was, "Why would anyone what to hear what you have to say?" Nowadays, people pay me precisely because they want to hear what I have to say.

Aimee, I've been boggled by this entire wedding experience of yours...and I do weddings on the side and have, therefore seem some stuff wedding-wise. How awful for you.

Completely separate from the cow-hole's behavior (JZ, I love your mind), I can't imagine enjoying anything about this wedding without pulling way back sometime very soon.

Etiquette or no, nobody HAS to do anything and even if you feel obligated to fete your Bride (and does she KNOW about this madness?), haven't you done so already?

Obviously not you, but if it were me...leaving out all details which are frankly nobody else's business, I'd simply say "I can't make it. I hope you have a lovely time and I'll be looking forward to the wedding."

Even the transportation offer can be mediated by providing information about alternate options.

Plain and simple? Nothing in the world is worth the kind of worry, strain, and pain dancing around with this woman's shortcomings is causing a good person like you.

I know you don't want to get The Bride involved with this, but she may not have any idea of what the MoH is doing and should probably know.

Bride knows exactly. I expect for Bride to come over tonight to discuss the latest rash of emails.

When I told my mom in undergrad that I was going to be just a theatre major and drop my other majors her response was, "But why would you do that, theatre is what talented people do."

Grrrrr.....

Today I am filled with the righteous rage. And I have all this money in my wallet (for rent, but the point is I have it right now!) and really really want to go on a head-stomping tour.

My Other Mother is in a wedding delimea. Her goddaughter is getting married and she's having a Destination Wedding to Costa Rica. Because they love the environment so much and want to get married in such a beautiful place. OM isn't poor, but we're talking airfare, hotel, and there's all these "outings" that the bride has planned -- one for each day that's not the wedding. so there are 3 or 4 outings. Each one over $100.

Only local fish and vegetables will be served at the reception because they want to make the least amount of enviornmental impact as possible.

Frankly, if they are so enviromentally concious they wouldn't be having the wedding there, but OM cant' say that.

I suggested that she make a very nice donation to a charity for Costa Rica's enviornment, or if she can't find one, to the Heifer Project and then send a lovely card expressing her regrets and explaining that God Daughter's devotion to the enviornment inspired the gift idea. (That way if goddaughter were the type to complain about a gift not being nice enough she cant' because it's a charitable donation and the god daughter would look petty.)