Well, we do that with friends who like to socialize in pricey restaurants, and we have a couple hwo are all foody like that and that's a big joy for them. We meet them for drinks or show up for dessert. They never seem to mind that much.

The big difference being that this is a bridal shower and your friends aren't expected to bring you a gift beforehand.

Kill her, Aimee. Kill her a lot.

If you don't, I'm coming out there to do the job myself.

Timelies, everyone.

Go power nap, Maria! That's what office doors are for.

(We left the invites open so people can each manage their own experience.)And if all else fails,this is why God invented credit cards.

The other difference is, it kind of sucks of some of the invitees feel like they can't afford to stay for the whole party. Plus, there are those who don't use/don't have credit cards. I'm with juliana. Kill her so dead.

I want to go off on her so incredibly bad, I can taste it. But every time someone send her an email, she calls Bride and tells her.

Th MoH seems to have a bad case of cranio-rectal inversion. Those can get fatal.

There's no problem at all! People who can't throw money around can just not come! See? Works for everybody!

WTF is her problem?

I have typed this response:

You're right, that *is* why God invented credit cards. I guess you can whip yours out for those who can't afford dinner.

I want to go off on her so incredibly bad, I can taste it. But every time someone send her an email, she calls Bride and tells her.

At this point, Aimee, I'd mail the bride's gift directly to her, along with a note saying that MoH's assholitude is the reason I wouldn't be attending this farce of a shower.

every time someone send her an email, she calls Bride and tells her.

So cut out the middle-man. Call Bride yourself. She knows what kind of financial position you're in. If she chooses to be cruel and heartless, do the minimum required as a BM and move on to friends who love who you are, not your credit.

I've sent this email:

I would hate for there to be fewer people to celebrate with Bethany simply because they could not afford what has been chosen. And knowing Bethany as I do, if someone says, "I'm not going to dinner, I can't afford it. I'll just hang in the room or go home." She's going to want to pay for that person. And she won't take no for an answer. And I don't think that's a position that she should be in at her shower.

At this point, Aimee, I'd mail the bride's gift directly to her, along with a note saying that MoH's assholitude is the reason I wouldn't be attending this farce of a shower.

I'm driving half the people to the actual thing.

I hate this whole thing.