Is it childish not to send your ex-husband a quick "happy birthday" email?

A couple of days ago he sent me an email saying, "I'm sorry to hear about the new lesion. If I can do anything, let me know." And I was sorely tempted to reply, "Well, you could have started by not divorcing me."

Divorce means that you are no longer in any way responsible for making him happy.

Wish him a happy birthday only if you feel like it.

Is it childish not to send your ex-husband a quick "happy birthday" email?

No. It's not. You are still finding your boundaries and comfort zone. It's not childish at all. You're trying to find normal.

A couple of days ago he sent me an email saying, "I'm sorry to hear about the new lesion. If I can do anything, let me know." And I was sorely tempted to reply, "Well, you could have started by not divorcing me."

Oh, honey.

We're meeting in about half an hour. Wanna come with?

Yes! I mean, I won't be, but I wanna. Have fun! Say hi to the burrowing owls. Oh, and the Californian condors. And the Pere David's deer. And the birds, pretty much all of them. And if any other animals look like they're missing me, say hi to them too.

Skimmy skim skim and hullo.

North Beach parking on a weekend is notoriously bad.

My nephew is playing at Jazz at Pearl's in North Beach and I went to the first show last Friday - and lucked out with a legal parking spot right on Columbus right in front of the Purple Onion. Whoot!

[re photos of Lily]

Whoa! Fabulous photos.

Re housing in the Seattle area, another local friend has bought a house in the San Juans. So now I have friends to visit on Lummi Island, Salt Spring Island, and two in Port Townsend, which is kind of in the San Juans, being in the rain shadow 'n' all. I expect this doesn't do anything to help the local housing prices for long time Seattle residents, sadly.

I think Katerina bee has gone on vacation, fyi.

Read the Sean Bean thing. I had completely forgotten that I absolutely, positively have to see The Island.

Hi Java cat!

Toast with sour cherry preserves: I have paid off my student loans in a biggish lump sum. I am now broke, but owe no one anything, except what I've charged this month on my Visa. Whew!

lib, if you can pay off the bill in full when it comes in, it doesn't count as debt.

Congrats!

Whoot for debt-free-ness!

Unless, of course, the contest results are revealing a flaw in my writing that somehow isn't revealed in ordinary critiquing.

A little later but....

Susan, I think I'd give most of the contests a pass. I can't speak with any authority on romance writing contests specifically, but I've gotten the impression over the years that the majority of writing contests tend to reward safe, normal, middle of the road entires. Not the interesting kind of writing that makes for good actual published books.