Heather, job-vibes are coming your way!

It'a cultural thing. Some cultures see it as the best possible gift, as the new couple will probably be putting toward something like a house. In my WASPy family it would be Not Done.

What Robin said. Here, it's not only not-tacky, it's sometimes even taken into account when planning the wedding. So many differences. People are confusing.

Jesse, I have both skipped and skimmed, and therefore I have no advice. Also, I should not even be here right now, and therefore I should post no more today.

re: money at a wedding. I think for the wedding we've got coming up at the end of the month, we'll give a check, and a little thing, like, a cast iron skillet.

My friends are starving artists; I know they want cash. So that's what they'll get!

For the record, the silver chafing dishes appeared at my buffet. I do not recall anyone mentioning them.

I have a wicked urge to hire a stripper to appear at amych's office now. Or possibly her wedding par-tay. Luckily I am a very classy person so I won't. Also, amych knows how to use a sword.

Trudy! In the kitchen at work, there's a box of Jersey Shore saltwater taffy! My co-worker who went on vacation last week did NOT, apparently, go to North Carolina, like I assumed -- she went to Ocean City. The taffy is all soft and perfect. Yum.

I wouldn't do my own makeup, especially given there will be pictures.

Huh. It's certainly possible that I looked like ass in all the pictures of all the weddings I've been in, but it never occurred to me to go get my makeup done professionally. They tend to make me look like a hoor.

Jesse, I have both skipped and skimmed, and therefore I have no advice. Also, I should not even be here right now, and therefore I should post no more today.

But posting is FUN! Also, there's not really any backstory. It's just, do I respond to work emails on a day I'm not at work?

I imagine it's just one of those cultural/familial things.

Oh, I know. Just saying that I can't imagine giving or getting it myself.

do I respond to work emails on a day I'm not at work?

What is with you people? Of course you don't, if you're not on salary.

Heather, job-vibes are coming your way!

Thank you! I'm not sure if it's something I'll take, but at the very least it'll be a place to practice interviewing. It's a law office, which I wouldn't have even thought of applying to, but apparently they're looking for someone they can mould to the position, and it's at least in proximity to the kind of thing I want.

I was allegedly MoH at my sister's wedding. Since I was 13 at the time, and even less socially adroit than I am now, most of the MoH chores were handled by others. I was also Best Man at a former roomie's wedding. His list of duties for me was as follows:

• Do not allow anyone to throw me a bachelor party.
• Do not allow anyone to hire a stripper at any time before or during the wedding.
• Do not allow anyone to spike my food or drink at any time before or during the wedding.
• Do not let me lose the ring.
• Do not let me yell at the future in-laws.

Basically, I was a social defensive lineman as much as a best man.

Of course you don't, if you're not on salary.

OK, good call. I'll just be all "OMG!" in the morning.

Good luck, Heather!