Thanks guys, I had to write another check for my place, and discovered that I didnt have a significant amount of money that I was counting on (cause I'm an idiot). I was able to cover it, but money will be tight for a bit, so I didn't know if it was just me.

It seems to me like I've known people who had several. But other than needing the MOH or at least one bridesmaid at each, they weren't mostly the same people, and it wasnt' the same people hosting them.

I do think if one of the showers has every female wedding invitee, that would pretty much be enough, wouldn't it? I know people who have had different showers for different groups/in different places, and still never invited every woman invited to the wedding.

I sure wouldn't want to wear a formal outfit that I had any hand in the making of.

exactly! I mean, she's a costumer, so she's great with a sewing machine. And I don't have any problem with the making vs. the buying of skirts. But, a pattern is kind of important!

I do think if one of the showers has every female wedding invitee, that would pretty much be enough, wouldn't it? I know people who have had different showers for different groups/in different places, and still never invited every woman invited to the wedding.

yeah. One shower is thrown by the MIL, one by "us", one by another friend of hers, who will probably be inviting people who are not invited to the wedding, which, in my book, is a no no.

Vortex, sounds like a fruitloop. I honestly would start saying "Sorry, that won't work for me/I cannot attend."

I don't get people.

Which reminds me, I need to see if my cousin is registered anywhere and get something shipped out there. Cause I am not carting something with me on the plane.

Of course, this presupposes I actually get there. For her sister's wedding in the same geographic area, around the same time....I never managed to get on a plane. Spent 5 hours in an airport, though.

I do think if one of the showers has every female wedding invitee, that would pretty much be enough, wouldn't it? I know people who have had different showers for different groups/in different places, and still never invited every woman invited to the wedding.

Yeah, I've never heard of that, unless if it were a tiny wedding I guess.

I didn't even get one shower. Now I feel cheated.

If we make you a wedding dress out of toilet paper will you feel better?

There is really going to be a reality show to replace Michael Hutchence? Because I can kinda hear the catchy tunes but mostly my brain is repeating autoerotic asphyxiation over and over, and I think I am kinda on the more accepting edge of the fetish charts.

I'm guessing his replacement doesn't have to meet the "autoerotic asphyxiation" requirement.

Is it just me, or is this over the top? I know that I am very sensistive about money these days because I just bought a goddamn house, but I'm looking at at LEAST $500 BEFORE I buy a gift!!

Um. That is craxxy. Also, my impression is that people in the wedding party do not need to buy a gift, 'cause of all the shower expenses etc. At least, that's what I've heard. I may not know so many insane-o bridezilla types though.

Oh, no. Members of the wedding party are expected to buy a whole separate wedding gift, in addition to a gift for each shower, as well as paying for their often-not-flattering-never-wear-it-again outfit, AND paying some amount for the shower/bachelorette party/luncheon (or all 3) that they're expected to throw.

I have been in such a wedding. (Seven years later, though, I had sex with the husband, so I eventually got my revenge.) (No, really.) (Okay, the sex part is true, but it was drunken stupidity, not revenge.)

I take a pretty dim view of the whole concept of bridesmaids. They're useless. Every time I've been a bridesmaid, my entire function was to spend a lot of money to stand around for a very short amount of time. (Except for the one FAC wedding where I was put to work the day before the wedding setting up tables and chairs and tents and so forth, and then more decorating the morning of the wedding, and then breaking it all down after the wedding was over. I was weeping with exhaustion by the end of the night.)

I realize I'm outside the norm, but I don't want to spend ridiculous amounts of money to be decorative; neither to I want to spend ridiculous amounts of money to be the (non)hired help.

Ahem.

t /steps off soapbox

If we make you a wedding dress out of toilet paper will you feel better?

Heh. A friend of my sister's made her prom dress out of duct tape and black and white photographs.

You bought a house? Cool!