{{{{Erin}}}}

I'm not quite sure why you got a new cat considering the allergies plus Gimlet not loving it and the extra expenses. But there's undoubtedly some Cat Logic to it all which escapes me

I didn't think the allergies would kick up quite this much -- plus, they're usually easily controlled by pills, except I don't have any right now. So that's a temp thing.

And I took Tulip because storm + hungry + sweet-natured + thinking about a 2nd cat anyway = New cat

If Gimlet really can't stand her after a week, then I might try to re-home her.

I don't know, don't ask me. I'm stupid, ok.

I'm stupid, ok.

Yeah, I don't think so. Impulsive? Soft-hearted? Both of those, probably.

Soft-headed, more like.

Well, it's done now. And she is sweet.

Soft-headed, more like.

Particularly in the swamplike sinuses.

But maybe taking on dependents when you can't even afford allergy pills was a little ambitious.

Erin, you're not soft-headed. You do need that job thang to start up so you can get your meds.

I basically attachment parent. It's more of a guideline, really, despite what some parenting board posters would have you think. And it's not that hard. It's all about "listening" to your kid.)

t /defensive granola geek parent

awww Erin... it is just too much right now. and you cats - might need more than a week to figure it out. and of course you aren't in love with new kitty - she showed up when you were feeling well.

strenght to you til friday

energy to vw

and finding new copeing ma to Susan .

and under the coffee table ma~ to the poor silly scared dog.

And I took Tulip because storm + hungry + sweet-natured + thinking about a 2nd cat anyway = New cat

Been there, done that, bought the litter tray. Inconvenient, maybe, but karmically of the good. Still, make damn sure you can feed/clothe/house yourself first, love, because cats are better at coping with no house/tinned food etc than we are.

Erin, love, I'm so sorry that things are looking shitty right now. Which of the things is most do-something-about-able? Because personally, I find it helps LOTS with my state of spiralling despair if I've got a wee list of things I need to fix, and then manage to cross some of them out. Is there a bit of your house you can face tidying? (SO with you on the slob front. My sistah!)

What's "attachment parent"?

t totally ignorant on all this stuff.

Em had 4 major head bangs in 48 hours. I hate having hardwood floors right now and I feel horrible. One of them, her and I were asleep on the couch after a restless night and she rolled right off. Another one, she lept out of my arms, off the couch and wham! right on the coffee table. Of course, that one gave her a bruise and after I conforted her and calmed her down a bit, I handed her over to Joe and wouldn't touch her for hours. I felt like *I* was hurting her and..........I just fell apart.

Of course, it didn't help that when I took her to school this morning her teacher pointed to her head and practically screamed, "What happened???"

I basically attachment parent. It's more of a guideline, really, despite what some parenting board posters would have you think. And it's not that hard. It's all about "listening" to your kid.)

There's an awful lot that's good about it, and honestly is stuff I did naturally. But even the little bit I've seen, is stuff that, if I'd known about it pre-Ben, would have thrown me into a cycle of guilt and self-recrimination. I was much more effective going by gut. I would have missed the big, bright, red letters that talk about it being a guideline.