Beej -- your friend evidentally has a hole in her head and all of social skills fell out.

My 4th has been okay. I mopped the kitchen for the first time. Went grocery shopping and have something planned to take for lunch tomorrow.

They had all kinds of sales on ice cream. I ended up getting two kinds of Klondike bars (buy one get one free) rather than Ben and Jerry's. I know me, the B & J will be gone by tonight. I can't do that kind of damage to Klondikes.

I ended up getting hot dogs, deli coleslaw and potato salad and I'm going to fix that and some lemonade take a blanket outside, and have a little picnic and take something to read.

bad friends

so how did I end up help DH reorganize the garage again? I know it needed it , but still....

Thanks so much for the hugs and good wishes.

Having bitched about it, I feel better. I'm sure, had I spoken about the plan to anyone else in the group, they'd have been completely okay with swinging around to pick me up.

And that means I need to be a lot smarter about dealing with this friend. (I love the hole in the head analogy) She has a way of being in the world that is not my way. Can't take it personally.

Another friend suggested that I shouldn't have let her take the boat. One part of me would have loved to come over all spitey like that but it just isn't me. I'm not so much a push over, as I am all honor-bound, sometimes in ways that don't serve me. Gotta give that some thought.

And thanks for the good thoughts for Bartleby. He's going to be okay. I can tell that the medication is leaving him feeling ookey...but it will be over in 8 days and hopefully, he'll feel better long before then.

I've really got to do some research to find a good immune booster to help him avoid problems like this.

The simple fact that I would have done it for her without even thinking about it speaks less to her selfishness and more to what I putz I have been.

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And also, !???&@^!!@*#?!! Not to mention @@ forever.

No, it does not speak to the fact *at all* of your putzness, that doesn't even enter into it. It's all on her and her selfishness, and may her boat sink from that load of karma.

Kisses to sweet Bartleby, who has a good owner.

You're overthinking this, Beej. The simple analysis is: Your friend is a poopyhead. And pats to poor Bartleby.

Aw, thanks Bev. I'm chuckling at the sweetness.

And I'll deliver the kisses when the Bboy wakes up. He seems to be dreaming about something that involves vibrating a lot and making zombie eyes (opening them without really openning them).

The putzness on my part comes from knowing full well that this friend can be a selfish git. Can't blame someone for continuing to exhibit behavior I've seen before. One could argue that I shouldn't have to accommodate for this...common decency and all...but hey, if she doesn't respect me, she doesn't. It's incumbent on me to protect my own boundaries...like not doing her favors or relying on her.

Shrug.

eta: And Ginger. Right in one on the overthinking!

Sloth won over vacuuming.

I am watching Chocolat and loving it less than the book. But I only just started watching. It does make me want some chocolate, however. Still waiting for Johnny Depp to show up. We'll see if it makes me also want some Johnny Depp.

So Johnny Depp with/in chocolate would make you happier, too?

How about him playing a chocolatier?

Johnny Depp dipped in a very dark, slightly bitter chocolate would make me so amazingly happy.

What can I say? I'm predictable.