I've been frowning over the BabyCenter webpage for warning signs of language delay: [link] It's supposed to be a problem if a 15-month-old doesn't have 1 to 3 words and doesn't say mama or dada. Annabel is now 14 months and does none of those things. Granted, that gives her a month, but it's starting to worry me the way she keeps flirting with missing social/communicative milestones--she was slow to smile and laugh, too. However, she's already doing some things from the 19-24 month list--pointing at objects of interest, imitating our actions, responding to simple directions. So I don't know what to think.

Honestly, O doesn't have any words yet, either. I'm not stressing because he babbles like he's speaking. He's got the inflection down and he emotes very well--just not in anything I can understand. He can say, "mamma" but he's never said it at me, or to me. He's not used more than the two signs he showed me (more and milk). I think I was slow on the language end (but I was a twin who didn't speak at all unless it was through my twin).

Susan, every baby develops differently, and each of the skills they develop keep them from learning others until that one is done. That's one of the things it was hard for me to get a handle on -- they're not multi-taskers. They do it one at a time. That means, she's wicked smart or she wouldn't be doing things in the older range, and she's not ready to talk or she'd be talking, but she will when she sees the benefit and/or gets tired of or learns enough of whatever's piqueing her interest now. If your pediatrician isn't worried, then you shouldn't be either.

I quit going to that website when I realized that it was just stressing me in re: Aidan since he's not learning at the pace they say he should. At least he's learning. Aidan said, "love you!" to me today, but only once, the brat. He wouldn't repeat it no matter what I did. He has also learned the phrase "big hugs". I'm ecstatic that he's using two word phrases. I wish Kara would just. be. quiet.

Ellie is absolutely beautiful. I'm so glad her daddy gets to be with her and Stephanie for a while.

Think that you're doing what you always do, silly: reading things online and worrying about how they apply to you or your smart, beautiful daughter when there is no reason to worry. So knock it off.

OK, OK. I thought so.

I mean, this kid:

A) Seems to understand a heck of a lot and have quite the sense of humor. When I was still slow-moving from the back, one day she kept shaking the lamp by the TV. I said, "Annabel, if you do that again, I'm putting you in the bouncer." (Bouncer being our word for the exersaucer.) She slowly stretched her fingers toward it...and laughed and laughed when I looked at her.
B) Will point from the M's logo on my Edgar Martinez #11 shirt (where it's a very small part of the overall design of a gray teeshirt) to the large M's logo on her dad's dark blue baseball cap. And she's been doing it for months, which seems like some pretty advanced pattern recognition for 14 months.
C) Has been known to point out low-flying airplanes.
D) Does things like come up to me holding a straw or spoon while I'm writing in a notebook and imitate my writing motions on the page with her long thin object.

But she won't say "mama." I don't really think she's behind, but she sure isn't following the usual order of doing things.

Susan, I just called my Mom and asked her some questions. Mom started out in speech therapy and from there has spent the past 30 years working in various aspects of special education/needs.

First, some babies just don't talk until later.

Second, speech problems are linked with hearing problems, so if you are sure she can hear then that rules stuff out.

Third, if you are concerned and you want to get some piece of mind she suggests you take Annabel to get evaluated by a professional. That way you know for sure and you don't have to worry.

By federal law (it's IDEA) states have to provide services to babies under 3 yrs old at no cost. There are several routes you can go, but since there's a university there, Mom suggests contacting the unversity and see if they have a speech and language program and asking for their assistance. If they don't, you can also call the school system, explain that you have a toddler you want evaluated for speech and what do they recommend.

Or if there is an Easter Seals there you can try that.

It's all free and if there are no problems then you know for sure and if there is something, well then you know too.

Mom also told me that when my brother was 3 yrs old he started stuttering and Mom figured that it was just his thoughts going faster than he could talk. But still she took him to Easter Seals, to make sure.

This conversation reminds me of JEFF FOXWORTHY: So my friend is all excited because his kid can point to planes and say "airp'ane" . I hate to break it to him, but big deal. The kid's fourteen, for heaven's sake.

Thanks, askye. There's absolutely no doubt she can hear--she dances (OK, bounces up and down, but with good rhythm) to music, responds to her name/simple commands, is visibly intrigued by people speaking foreign languages, etc.

I'm not going to do anything until we're back from Alabama, since I have enough on my plate just getting to everything that has to happen before we leave, but I'll keep those resources in mind for when we get back. Though I don't want to put an added burden on my mom when she has so much to cope with now, I'm hoping she'll tell me if she thinks there's a problem--half the reason I worry is I've so rarely been around babies and toddlers that all I have to go by is the charts, and Mom has all the real-world experience I lack.

Mom's are good for that stuff, Susan. I'm glad you've got her to ask.

What is a very nice way of saying remuneration, gift, kickback, honorarium? I can't think of the word, but I know there is one.

I'm writing a letter where the client wants to impress a snooty pants with the information that said Mr. Pants will receive a little candy if he tells his friends about the client. Client doesn't want to be crass and name the amount of said candy, and he doesn't want to give it unless the friends sign up, but he wants to mention it, but discreetly, so he doesn't seem crass to Mr. Pants. It's difficult.

Susan, FWIW, my older brothers always claimed my first word was "shit." So, you know, it could be worse.

Also, one of my cousins didn't start talking until she was two. Graduated high school as class valedictorian for a class of 1500.

Deena, would "small token of our appreciation" work?

Also, one of my cousins didn't start talking until she was two. Graduated high school as class valedictorian for a class of 1500.

Thanks, Sail!

Ah, yes, thanks Susan. I don't know why I couldn't think of that.