It doesn't sound like a good idea, but, fortunately, all you have to do is order the pizza, and let the chips (pepperoni) fall where they may.

True. It's all very much Not My Problem. But I can't help boggling nonetheless.

As for the tables and dancing, can you maybe lay out some dance floor sizes in tape in the hall and have the bride in to see how much space it actually takes?

Well, at this point the room is set up according to their requests. If when they come in tomorrow to decorate they're unhappy with the layout, I'd be happy to help them take down a few tables and rearrange. Mainly I'm puzzled. If they'd asked for the fellowship hall set up with mostly chairs ringing the room and a few tables in the corners, they'd have plenty of room to accommodate all their guests (lecture-hall style the room's capacity is 450 or so), but as is they'll only have room for about 200 seated guests. And they KNOW this. At least, I told them, and I'm sure they can do the math of 20 tables with ten chairs each. I just don't get it.

Susan, make sure they give you the money up front, for the pizza.

Susan, make sure they give you the money up front, for the pizza.

Will do. Will definitely do.

Weird stuff, Susan. Though when I was a bride, I barely touched the pre-wedding food. Maybe she's counting on that. The too many people for the room arrangement I have no explanation for. Unless they think that many people who said they would come will not. Which seems like an odd thing to think, but hey, I don't know these people, it could be the case.

The too many people for the room arrangement I have no explanation for

Maybe it's a "Big fancy weddings have everyone sitting down at a table" thing. Her mindset may not allow her to budge on that.

Jen, love, I totally agree with what they all said. I'm so sorry for the both of you, actually, because it sounds like this has really rather bruised your trust, and yet I can totally see myself being that kind of asshat. The wish to not seem like Creepy Stalker Guy - yeah, I can get that. But oh my God, I so understand that you're loath to stick your neck out.

But the universe owes you goodness now, love. And you're gorgeous, and funny, and smart, and sexy, and he clearly does dig you. Carpe diem.

Maybe it's a "Big fancy weddings have everyone sitting down at a table" thing. Her mindset may not allow her to budge on that.

I think this is it. Also, "Big fancy weddings have dancing." Never mind that filling the hall with tables and having room for a dance floor are unmixy things.

We'll just see how it goes. They've seen the room set up for a weekly dinner the church has for the homeless, so they know what it looks like with the number of tables they requested.

And vw, putting on my unsolicited advice hat, I'd say if you're offered this job, take it and don't worry about the might-have-beens from next week's interview or any other resumes you have out there--the work itself looks fabulous and in line with your interests, and I'm sure you know how rare benefits like they're offering are with part-time work.

Oh, I know! That’s actually the plan I have.

Much job~ma and contract~ma to Cass!

Jen, I agree with what everyone else has been saying, but totally get why you’re upset. I hope that the two of you are able to sit down and talk this out.

ION, I know that at least two of my references have been called. Yay!

Maybe they're planning on dancing between the tables? I've done that at crowded weddings, but I don't think it was the intent.

Jen, somewhere alone the line - there was going to be a problem.

if I had been in his shoes - there is no way I could tell if telling you about my pregoogleing or not telling you about my pregoogleing would be more dangerous.

I have no idea if you are ready for dateing. it is sort of a are the problems worth it question. and you have been outragousely happy.