Hmm. I think of all the bisexual guys I know only a handful are openly so, and more than a few of the gay ones (including my ex) gave every appearance of being actively het at some point in their adult lives.
It's funny, because when meara was staying with me we were talking about someone who had been in a long term het relationship and...changed. And it seemed very strange.
But at the same time - I am way more interested in women than I used to be. And it wasn't ignorance or denial, as far as I can tell. Right now, I think sexually I am good either direction. The person we were talking about was coming out of a five -plus year het relationship, and saying he'd been gay all along and didn't know it.
For me? Emotionally, I'm not sure where I fall. And I'm 40, and I've been involved with more men than women. And right now I'm so disassociated from *anyone* that I wonder if some of my draw toward women isn't just because it's easier.
gay all along and didn't know it
Semantically, how does that differ from being in denial, I wonder? I mean, you thought that was as good as it got? Didn't properly feel the feelings for the same sex?
I say all this, and I'll be gay tomorrow, just watch.
I've known enough gay guys that have a sexual history with women that it completely doesn't ping me. And I've known bisexual guys. It's really not an issue for me to imagine someone going from sleeping with women onscreen with sleeping with men offscreen if it's written well.
Yeah. Same. I mean, I know straight guys who've had sex with men. Sure, they prefer women, wouldn't date a guy, but go down on one? What the hell, why not?
And Then There Were Bras. Kirk/Sulu, Spock/McCoy, genderswap. This cartoon (by a couple of very good friends of mine) is absolutely hilarious. Go read and give them love. Ka-Dude!
ETA: NSFW. Naked sexy times abound.
Der, yeah. Sorry about that.
Another awesome fic by a friend: The Czernak Protocol by lindmere. Summary: Jim undergoes medically induced amnesia after a disastrous mission. I'd call it suspenseful genfic with an underlying Kirk/McCoy relationship. PG-13 for violence and dark themes.
Time for another great comic by my good friend Jo. Kirk/Spock. Written for the ksadvent community, totally safe for work. Bring your hankies.
20 Watts: [link]
When the Badger Grows Horns is a fascinating SPN AU that was written for the Racebending Revenge challenge over on Dreamwidth (and posted late due to RL issues for the author).
It's good stuff, with the most profound changes being relational vs. Big!Canon!Events! Also, I adore the John in this, who is very recognizeable despite having a very different background than in canon.
