I hope all involved can get effective counseling -- most especially the bride. You must be under tremendous stress to do something like that.
If I were the groom, I'd certainly want to put off the wedding at this point, if not cancel it altogether.
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Fourteen!!!1!???/?
bridesmaids?)
Easy to say till it actually happens to you
This
mightn't have happened to me, but it's not like I haven't cut family off before. It's not something I look forward to, but moving my boundaries out further and further with family who've messed inconsiderately with me -- well, I have a large and difficult family. I'd be drained, wrung dry, and living a very different life if I hadn't.
I have no regrets.
It's not something I look forward to, but moving my boundaries out further and further with family who've messed inconsiderately with me -- well, I have a large and difficult family. I'd be drained, wrung dry, and living a very different life if I hadn't.
Very, very true. I'm sorry...I probably didn't say that very well. I don't think you should push those boundaries out. They're very important. And even more importantly, you must take care of yourself.
No regrets are good.
vw, I understand that most folks don't do something ike this without powerful cause and that they think they are doing what they have to do, but the thing is, it DOES hurt the people left behind--as you know. It causes everyone who cares about them fear and sorrow and anxiety. They go to seek their own peace, while robbing all who are close to them of theirs. One can understand the behavior, one can forgive it, but it doesn't change the fact that it's deepy hurtful.
This has been the only story on CNN this morning, as far as I can tell. I just went out to breakfast, and the diner had CNN on the TVs there, and for the entire time we were there, there was no other story. Even the scrolling thing at the bottom was just talking about this.
It's one thing to run away, but the whole claiming to have been kidnapped thing is insane. I think she should be made to pay for the search and massive panic she caused.
I read this news story in the paper this morning: [link]
It makes me sick. Why can't people like this be thrown in jail? Their business should be taken away from them, at least. Thousands of dollars in damages don't seem like punishment enough. I need to find out the name of their farm so I can be sure that I never buy produce from them.
Um, if that's an animal cruelty story, I'm not clicking. I'd rather read about a dozen selfish brides running away, seriously.
No animals were harmed in the making of that story. A great deal of racist humiliation was involved, though.
It's a story about a farm in Quebec that segregated their farm workers. They were taken to task by the Quebec Human Rights Tribunal, but one complainant was awarded $100K, and the rest of the complainants got $10K. It just doesn't seem like enough censure to me.
For a start, I have incredible contempt for high-maintenance lies.
Sing it. Also? I am just always boggled at the work that goes into them. It's much easier to take your lumps, I think. Then it's over.
As for that farm, I think I would have rather read a story about cruelty to animals.
No animals were harmed in the making of that story. A great deal of racist humiliation was involved, though.
And really, humiliation was the tip of the iceberg. The article said the cafeteria lacked heat, running water, proper toilets, refrigeration and many other amenities. Amenities? Amenities?!? I find the use of
amenities
there more anger-making than I probably should, but I don't think running water, heat, and propert toilets should be considered amenties in the U.S. and Canada anymore, and certainly not when talking about workplace conditions, particularly for workers who handle food. WTF?!?
They would have their farm taken from them under the you-suck-hard law I'll be establishing, right after I establish my more-naps and more-cookies law, when I'm recognized as supreme ruler.