The real question is, are guy squirrels turned on by girl squirrels in human drag?

Basically, I dress and groom for me.

God, really? If I were dressing and grooming for only me, I wouldn't wear makeup ever, and all my clothes would be selected for comfort, not fashion.

DH thinks I'm at my most adorable when I think I look like crap -- hair at least 2 weeks past it's dye-date, no makeup, bags under my eyes, etc etc. I clean up only for myself.

The real question is, are guy squirrels turned on by girl squirrels in human drag?

Oh, come ON!

How could they NOT be?

I wouldn't wear makeup ever, and all my clothes would be selected for comfort, not fashion.

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Although my idea of "comfort" involves long swirly skirts.

DH thinks I'm at my most adorable when I think I look like crap -- hair at least 2 weeks past it's dye-date, no makeup, bags under my eyes, etc etc.

I gotta get me one of those.

Huh. I always thought women wore matching underwear ONLY for men, and that on an average day where nobody would see them undressing, it was whatever undies were clean and at the top of the pile of laundry you never seem to put away.

Somedays I'm all about the first clean undies I can find. Other days I like my matching froofy stuff. I'm married, so it'll likely be seen eventually, but I think the fancy underwear are mostly for me. I have the lacy/satin/frilly underthings and 2 fancy robes that I wander around the house in on "spa days"

I think that's a wholly subjective thing

By definition.

that depends on both the woman and the guy in question

I'm wondering in terms of generalities.

Me, I dress just as much as *I* like, unless I need to have a specific effect (look professional, scary ... sexy is just one of those options, and not used as often as the other two suggestions).

However, I'm not unkempt. I do have a tendency to wear clothes that many might opine don't fit (both baggy and tight) from time to time. Mostly, though, I'm aiming to dress more for me, and less with a sensitivity to how complete strangers are going to react.

I do wonder if some of the guys who say "Legs? Hair? Makeup? Who cares?" have spent time looking at women with unshaved legs and pits.

*I* don't care. I figured guys did, though. Enough of them, and not just the "Why don't you look like CZJ?" kind. Just that one takes for granted that women look a bit more like the cleaned up version than we naturally do.

Hmm. Dunno if it's a guy vs. girl thing or just the fact that I'm a slob, but if I'm home and don't expect anyone to see me, pictures of the results could be used for blackmail purposes.

I think I have bought into the societal ideas about proper appearance quite a bit though. I find lack of shaving to be aesthetically unappealing on women despite having no personal stake in their attractiveness, and despite finding the exact opposite to be true of men.

I think most of what I do I do for myself. My DH claims to not like makeup, nail polish or perfume, etc. I wear all those things on occassion, so I must be doing it because I want to.

To pick up on Connie's idea, I would rebel if he suddenly started telling me I should wear lipstick, but I appreciate it when he reminds me I might need some sunscreen.