This money, it is too much. You should have some small refund.

Niska ,'War Stories'


Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Steph L. - May 18, 2005 5:39:50 am PDT #9733 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Gonna see Star Wars tonight at the midnight show. Am deeply thrilled.

My alarm clock is set to NPR, and the timing was such that this morning, what woke me up was the Star Wars theme, as it led into the story about the movie. It was actually a little disconcerting at first.


Connie Neil - May 18, 2005 5:40:33 am PDT #9734 of 10001
brillig

I just don't believe in love at first site, and if the guy wasn't able to deal with the pets (whether through allergies or other issues) I can't see dating him long enough to fall in love with him.

Yup.


erikaj - May 18, 2005 5:41:09 am PDT #9735 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!

It would take an *incredibly* special person...The Love of my Life, which I am so sure is not there for me, I'll use an acronym, LOML to give up a furry friend for. But if LOML had allergies, I suppose I would.


-t - May 18, 2005 5:41:42 am PDT #9736 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Jealous of connie, now. I don't know when I'll get to see it.


Connie Neil - May 18, 2005 5:41:43 am PDT #9737 of 10001
brillig

My alarm clock is set to NPR, and the timing was such that this morning, what woke me up was the Star Wars theme

Dammit, I get up to NPR, too, and what I got was a story about NYC teenagers whose first day of high school was 9/11.

How cool to wake up to the Star Wars theme.


Betsy HP - May 18, 2005 5:42:39 am PDT #9738 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

I have tickets for Friday night; the hubster's company is taking him out with the gang, so it'll be just me and the kidsters. Should be fun.


Steph L. - May 18, 2005 5:43:05 am PDT #9739 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

I'm violently allergic to cats, and so I have sympathy for the allergic people who otherwise would spend eternity with their sweetie. I didn't choose to have allergies, but I'm not going to put my health at risk to be with someone. I'm a selfish bitch who likes to breathe, I guess.


Steph L. - May 18, 2005 5:44:00 am PDT #9740 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

How cool to wake up to the Star Wars theme.

It was cool, after my initial disorientation. Because I expect to wake up to voices, and so the theme made me think I was still dreaming.


Nora Deirdre - May 18, 2005 5:44:44 am PDT #9741 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

I think it depends on the pet and the person, and the situation. You prioritize, and do what you need to do to make yourself happy. You let go of a person you love or a pet you love (if it comes to that). Not an enviable situation either way, and I'm happy I was able to avoid it.


DavidS - May 18, 2005 5:45:46 am PDT #9742 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I think it all comes down to choices, and there are a lot of ways to figure out if something's going to be a sticking point before it gets to something serious. For example, JZ likely knew from the beginning that Hec was allergic to cats, and possibly knew in the back of her mind that if things were to move forward with Hec, that co-habitation would mean some tough choices. I may be assuming stuff that is stupid of me to assume. But that's what I've gleaned.

Well gleaned. JZ and I had to make a number of compromises to come around to a marriage. I had to be willing to have children again, first of all. And a Catholic wedding, while not a dealbreaker, was a very high priority for her. And my allergies were not mild enough to deal with medicine, and Emmett is allergic to cats as well.

In any event, I love animals and don't doubt Toto's wonderfulness or the bond he has with vw. I didn't really intend to do more than state my own priorities in the matter, though I suppose it was provocative to say something like, "if you prefer pets to people you'll probably wind up with pets." But that just seemed self-evident to me, in the sense that if you set your filter that way and sift through all your life choices through that screen then you're going to be plus pets and minus people when you're done.