I don't think Hec was saying that being close to a pet constituted an unhealthy attachment.
I think it all comes down to choices, and there are a lot of ways to figure out if something's going to be a sticking point before it gets to something serious. For example, JZ likely knew from the beginning that Hec was allergic to cats, and possibly knew in the back of her mind that if things were to move forward with Hec, that co-habitation would mean some tough choices. I may be assuming stuff that is stupid of me to assume. But that's what I've gleaned.
Likewise, vw, if you met someone who was allergic to Toto, or didn't like him (IMPOSSIBLE!!! stick to the allergies on this hypothetical) then I think you'd let him go sooner rather than later, as it's one of those incompatibilities that would make the two of you not suited for each other in the long run, like politics, religion, etc. (ETA - xpost with Calli!)
So, everyone's right, because it's all about personal choices.
Also, sometimes people suck hard, as watching the news will have you believe, and sometimes a better bet is the company of animals and not someone who, you know, sucks and hurts you in one of the multitudes of ways that we human hurt each other.
Nora, I'm glad you posted that. I was feeling like Hec's point was taken places he didn't intend it to go.
I've been dumped by my cat.
Damn. Now THAT's gotta sting.
Huh. I doubt I'd get rid of a pet for a boyfriend, but for a live-in/husband who was allergic? Yeah, I would. It would be really hard -- I've had pets most of my life -- but I'd do it for a spouse. Not for a BF, as they have impermanent status.
I would not get rid of a pet if it were simply a case of the guy not liking the pet. If it's that much of a deal-breaker, then there are probably other things I wouldn't like about the guy.
But allergies I understand, and if I love someone enough to marry him, and he's allergic, I'd give my pet away.
Nora, I'm glad you posted that. I was feeling like Hec's point was taken places he didn't intend it to go.
Me, too.
Gonna see Star Wars tonight at the midnight show. Am deeply thrilled.
-t, that's good to hear. We want you stress free this weekend. (and always)
Very nicely put, Nora.
Thanks, Calli! It's a load off my mind. (eta: and Laura! I will strive to keep my moving anxiety to a minimum this weekend. Seeing your pampered and pretty self will help with that, I'm sure)
I've been dumped by my cat.
Damn. Now THAT's gotta sting.
Oh, yeah. I hurt worse than getting dumped by the then boyfriend: after all, I hadn't rescued him from the streets and fed him for the past three years.
But allergies I understand, and if I love someone enough to marry him, and he's allergic, I'd give my pet away.
I can see this. I just don't believe in love at first sight (at least for me), and if the guy wasn't able to deal with the pets (whether through allergies or other issues) I can't see dating him long enough to fall in love with him.
Of course, I also expect to die an old maid anyway, so my perspective is not everyone's.
Gonna see Star Wars tonight at the midnight show. Am deeply thrilled.
My alarm clock is set to NPR, and the timing was such that this morning, what woke me up was the Star Wars theme, as it led into the story about the movie. It was actually a little disconcerting at first.
