you have to concede your positive against your partner's negative
So (and I'm chronically single, so bear with me) they don't have to examine their negative? I mean, no always wins? There's no sucking it up from the other side?
Can't you ever get your mind out of the hellmouth?
Buffy ,'Touched'
Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
§ ita § - May 17, 2005 7:21:49 pm PDT #9669 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Strix - May 17, 2005 7:23:06 pm PDT #9670 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
I sure did!
Or he scrumped me, or something. "Scrumped." That's a new one.
I may never walk right again. But that's...kinda ok.
DavidS - May 17, 2005 7:25:56 pm PDT #9671 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
So (and I'm chronically single, so bear with me) they don't have to examine their negative? I mean, no always wins? There's no sucking it up from the other side?
Not quite. You're completely able to raise the issue and try to get your partner to reconsider their objection. Sometimes they'll go, "Huh. You are so right." But rarely. Ultimately you have to respect their feelings even when they seem CRAXY. Bottom line (my opinion only) you have to privilege the relationship over your wants, but that doesn't mean you can't advocate for what you want.
And some issues are non-negotiable (cf. JZ giving up beloved cats to move in with allergic me.)
Eddie - May 17, 2005 7:26:24 pm PDT #9672 of 10001
Your tag here.
Erin's new tag: "scrumptious".
DavidS - May 17, 2005 7:27:56 pm PDT #9673 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Erin's new tag: "scrumptious".
She's all that and a bag of chips.
§ ita § - May 17, 2005 7:28:26 pm PDT #9674 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Ultimately you have to respect their feelings even when they seem CRAXY
And they have to do the same, right? That's the part I don't get. If Mr. W came to you with his side of exactly this divide, would you tell him to sit tight until he gets what he wants, because he's on the negative side, or would you tell him to think about how important this is for Susan, how much it means to him, and that he should respect the priorities of the woman he married, even when they seem CRAXY?
Cass - May 17, 2005 7:28:29 pm PDT #9675 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I may never walk right again. But that's...kinda ok.That sounds ... kinda ok.
Anyone here tried Zelnorm?
What? PDR? Eh, I have Buffista power!
Strix - May 17, 2005 7:28:46 pm PDT #9676 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Hee, Eddie.
Scrumptious cleavagey slutbomb, yo!
Scrappy - May 17, 2005 7:29:59 pm PDT #9677 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Got my hair cut (your style, Laura!) and colored (red red red) today. I am very happy with it.
Susan, I wouldn't borrow heartache if I were you. This doesn't need to be decided tonight and you don't need to react as if it does. Lots can happen. Maybe by the time you get your check for your first book, you will have found a hand-colored print of a soldier in regimentals which you HAVE to have insterad of a gun. Maybe a show you guys watch on the History channel will help Dylan relax a little about firearms. Maybe when Annabelle is older, he'll feel btter or you'll be less interested. Anything can happen! I also don't know why you expect him to be excited about the same things you are. The BF is very fond of his signed photos of 1972 Miami Dolphins players and I couldn't NAME a 1972 Miami Dolphin player. He has never even looked inside one of my adored collection of children's books in all the years we have lived together. It doesn't bother me for me to have things which are only mine and give only me pleasure.
Cass - May 17, 2005 7:30:42 pm PDT #9678 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
And some issues are non-negotiable (cf. JZ giving up beloved cats to move in with allergic me.)This might explain my recently reaquired singleness. I see this and think Claritan might be worth a shot. Unless they are deadly allergies. That would change things for me. YIssuesMV...