Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.
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You know, being back on dial-up is good for me. I was getting cranky with the slow page loads on my website, so I just spent the morning streamlining it. (And only Fay of those here also thinks it's morning).
One of the cats who lives in our backyard is getting ready to have kittens. She appears to have chosen the embassy-provided deck furniture as her place. I'm not sure when she's actually due, but she is showing major cat skills in having picked the only thing that's got a nice white fabric cover for the messy event.
Gah. Have I mentioned at all how completely terror-filled I am at even the thought of anything happening to my kid? I managed to have a night of anxiety insomnia two days ago, where I didn't go to bed until *Paul was up to go to work* on account of a sudden terror of SIDS. Seriously. After her 5am feed, I had to have him go and get her ready to go back down in the other room so that I could fall asleep.
If my kids were sleeping too quietly, I'd poke 'em, 'til they moved. Then I could go back to sleep, provided I didn't wake them, trying to make them prove they were still alive.
Does it get better? I mean, it's just... well, frankly, I didn't know it was possible to love something or someone this much, and it's scary and shit.
This is hysterical to me right now, only because...no. And yes. But somewhat no. It's hysterical, because I woke at 4:30. I thought I heard Scott come in (he went into work at 4ish yesterday, because they're adding some new system or software, or something and have to start these things at night, after the business is closed). I kept waiting for him to come in and turn off the TV. I can't sleep in our bed if he's not there.
When he didn't come shut off the TV, I knew it couldn't be him. Then my heart started racing. I had to go upstairs to make sure Mr. Christopher hadn't escaped, and that that wasn't the noise I'd heard. I came down, put on the coffee and paged Scott. He called me back. He's still working. Someone hadn't sync-ed up the production and development environments, and it threw off the whole thing.
I poured my coffee, and started catching up on the thread, but was anxious, because I really hadn't gone in the kids' rooms to make sure they're okay. I'd just peeked to make sure they were in bed. And I've been fighting the urge to go give them a little poke and make sure they're okay.
Can PPD last 5 years?
I poke the *cats* to make sure they're alive.
I've done it for ages.
I'm so screwed. *g*
Sigh. She needs to wake up soon, so I can feed her and go to sleep.
I did finally go upstairs and give them all a poke. Actually, I only had to prompt Julia to prove she was alive. She was sleeping face down, and all her hair was covering her face. I couldn't hear her breathe and her body didn't seem to be moving. I finally had to start to turn her over, before she moved enough to satisfy me. I partially woke her. She looked up and I said, "Sorry. It's okay. Go back to sleep." The boys, bless, were breathing audibly.
It gets better--or you get better, or better at faking you're better, or something. I'm much the way beth described herself, too. So what do I know. I am proud to say I can't remember the last time I had to give them a prove-you're-living poke while they slept, before this morning. It's just that other worries come. My grandmother used to say, "In your arms, your arms ache. Out of your arms, your heart aches." There's another saying too, something like: Being a parent means your heart walks around outside of your body for the rest of your life.
"In your arms, your arms ache. Out of your arms, your heart aches."
This is it, exactly.
One of the reasons we waited to have kids was that I thought I'd be too panicky when I was younger. Seriously, once when Robert was supposed to be biking home from law school and was an hour late, I got in the car and went looking for him, because I was sure he'd been hit by a car. Of course he'd run into some mates and was hanging out chatting. I'm somewhat better now (although I wish he'd learn to use his damn cellphone), so it's good we waited or I'd never sleep and never leave the baby's side.
In other baby news, "There's a Light" from RHPS seems to be the lullaby that works right now.
In other baby news, "There's a Light" from RHPS seems to be the lullaby that works right now.
I don't know this, and I'm trying to make a connection to the discussion in the other thread, and time passing quickly/slowly but it's coming out all gronk.
This is it, exactly.
It really is. When they're babies, your arms do ache--not only your literal arms (which *do* ache) but so much of your time is taken up by them, even on the best of days, when the baby is happy, healthy and reasonable. But the heartache is just as difficult. They go out in the world, and people hurt them, and don't love them the way you do, or they even just go out to play in the yard, and you lose sight of them. Parenthood is not for wimps.
In other baby news, "There's a Light" from RHPS seems to be the lullaby that works right now.
I bet! That's too cute. I normally just make something up on the spot.
Awake and nursing, thank dog. Sleep shall happen soon.
I poke my furry babies (cats) too, when I can't tell if they're breathing or not. No naked baby to poke.
My friends have made up several songs, including one for burping. I have driven 2.5 hrs home from visiting them singing that damn song in my head the whole way. Should I have kids, I'm not sure I'll be able to use anything else in its place!
Stayed up all night reading books. (Well, napped for about an hour.) Must go to work now. Bleargh. Oh well, it's a short day.
I still poke Bobby if he is quiet. He ususally snores so badly that if he is quiet I get freaked. Brendon always looks and sounds dead when he sleeps so it doesn't bother me and he doesn't get poked.
I'm tired, but parental units will be here in a few hours and I must shovel out the living areas. The pressure cleaner might come in handy.
I thought Owen was the noisiest sleeper in the world. All that snuffling and snorting and moving. So when he did get into deep sleep and went quiet, I immediately would wake up and jump to see if he was still alive. I think it's because their nervous system is still being wired that they are jumpy and thrashy plus, after being in water for 10 months, the air is so much drier--resulting in the congestion.
It gets *better* but never completely goes away. He's been sleeping solidly through the night for almost two months now and I still wake up twice to check on him.
I'm in the Raquel is a HAWT MAMMA corner.
Hec, I'll have hair pictures posted next week, since the digital camera is packed. erika will be in them, too!!
Why am I still here? We decided against leaving late last night. We just couldn't get packed and ready and by the time we did, it was O's bedtime. I just thought that he'd sleep better in his own crib. We're hopefully out of here in another hour or two. First to Indiana to drop off the kid and then catching the plane on Sunday morning.
