Romance novels are good for my marriage. I switch gears very slowly - so if I am doing the dishes - sex is a forgien concept. a good romance novel puts my brain in the right place.

I'm the same way. So both reading and writing this stuff is good for my marriage.

I worry about the objectification of women. And I worry that supporting "legitimate" forms of pornography somehow contributes to the existence of "lower" forms of porn.

Yes, this.

I think most romance novels are concerned with the romance part--with bits of sex thrown in for fun. So I don't consider them in any way, pornographic.

Me neither. Though in the wip, the sex is too important for character development to take out without gutting the story, so I wouldn't quite say it's thrown in for fun, either.

Erotica is porn you like...porn is porn you don't like...I think Gloria Steinem said that.

...and obscenity is porn you don't think anyone should like.

Of course, how could I forget! Thanks, Fred.

the sex is too important for character development to take out without gutting the story, so I wouldn't quite say it's thrown in for fun, either.

yup, I like it all to fit together.

and fred pete and erika find the quote that makes sense to me. one point each.

Well, let's just say I remember stuff I'm interested in, then.

OMG, EMMA IS SO FRIGGIN CUTE!

Hi Bitches. Not dead.

ION, Annabel can now say "mama," though I can't tell yet if she really means me or she's just happy about the new consonant she's worked out. And her hair is getting so long now that I really need to get to Target and find some little girl barettes that'll work with fine, wispy hair.