it's different with a fiance/spouse

I can't imagine that either. Of course, I also can't imagine living with most pets -- you mean independently mobile organisms that I'm not allowed to spray to death will be in my home when I'm not? Creepy.

Hee! I get pissy when Greg drinks my diet coke to take medication or something and then whines about how gawdawful it tastes. Dude! Get your own drink!

Many good thoughts for Heather, Mr. Heather and his grandmother.

Oh, if I had my way, I'd totally go it alone. Thing is, I don't think I could manage alone just yet, and if I were waiting until I'd saved up money for a whole deposit alone, I'd be in Maine forever!

nods head in massive agreement

This is why I ended up staying in one apartment for 9 years and another for 6, and both were too small for me when I moved in - the second one humrously so...if you weren't me. When we were done moving me in, but before I'd been able to unpack anything, there was a pile of stuff instead of a room there. Hopefully, never again.

Oh, and Lilty, sorry to have missed you Friday, but it sounds like life was coming down on you this weekend.

(-t) Thank you so much! I was feeling like just about the most evil person in the world when I was up tossing and turning over this, and not just for her sake.

Living with Tom is a lot different than lviing wth roommates. I thought, actually, I'd have trouble, due to my previous aversion of roommates, but it worked out surprisingly well.

It helps that he does my bidding.

Doesn't it always?

Lily is so beautiful.

{{{Connie, Calli & vw}}} for you various reasons.

D.Griswold -- oh! The people on the internets were nasty about Rory. Well, not on the internets that I go read and post about GG. (I avoid TWOP forums.)

Meanwhile, we all KNEW that Rory wouldn't be able to just blithely hangout and have sex with Logan, right? Even though she thought she could.

Sigh.

It can work. My Aunt lived in a nice apartment with three other women for 10 years. They each had their own bedroom, One was a widow and the other two were divorcees and they were all in their 50s when they moved in with each other. It allowed my Aunt to save money (she was a high school teacher in Evanston) to build her retirement house. All three women are still friends.

BF is easy to live with, and he can reach things on high shelves, which is a plus.

I know, Frank, I'm so sorry! It just seemed like one thing after another this weekend. (When it wasn't this, it was work- my boss seems to be on the verge of some sort of breakdown, and I've just had "Things fall apart when the center cannot hold" playing on a loop in my head.)

Vacation. One week. I can make it.

Now, I slack alone.

You're not slacking. You are creating a life that may be different from your circle of friends, but that is not slacking. Being single and not having children does not equate slacking or failure. (Sorry, just one of my buttons.)

Not even the people (I lived with my best friend and then my cousin) but just the sharing of space. I became SO intolerant of that once I hit 28-29. That might be me though.

Not just you. I finally got my own place at 30 and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

sending out the ma to the Heather family

and some general ma~~

DH sadly does not always do things my way, but he is cute and that seems to make up for it.