The anticipation and anxiety will decrease after he sees you (and your baby). Brendon was a riot during the birthing process. (as I look back) He found the whole thing fascinating. He kept watching the monitors and would tell me when I was having contractions. LIKE I DIDN'T KNOW!!! The video shows him looking time and again to see if he could spot the head popping out. It's really very funny. As someone else pointed out, when you are in labor you really don't care how many or few people are around. I could have been in the middle of the mall with the evening news and I wouldn't have noticed. He missed the birth of our second son as he brought the first one to a sitter and then ran home to get the camera. It was a quick birth and he was too late.

If I had been foolish enough to do it again I would have insisted on staying home. That was my desire from the start.

What is the timing of his arrival and the baby's arrival? The more time he has with you before the birth the more his anxiety should be relieved.

I absolutely understand how you feel, and agree, but I feel so bad for him. He must feel even more out of the loop than most dads. Brendon felt on the periphery of the whole process until the kids were past nursing. Now he is like primary parent with all the sports. It's a fluid process.

Once the baby gets there, it's easy to let the rest of the world fall away and just concentrate on the three of you.

Yes, this. Hold on the thought that it's all good after the baby arrives.

Is it just me or does Laura's tag keep getting longer and longer?

He must feel even more out of the loop than most dads.

Yes, this. I posted in your LJ, too, Stephanie, but I think Laura is right on the mark here. I know this must be so hard for you, but I bet he's feeling more than a little disconnected. Good communication ~ma to you both.

As someone else pointed out, when you are in labor you really don't care how many or few people are around. I could have been in the middle of the mall with the evening news and I wouldn't have noticed.

By the end when we had to go into minor crisis mode to get the kid out, I didn't care how many medical personnel ended up in the room, as long as they had a purpose. But I'm still glad DH was the only person from my everyday life who was there. Which is to say that while I agree with everything about where your husband is coming from and how to support him, do stick to your guns about who you want to be there, because you will still care, and if there's any time in a marriage when your preferences should rule the day, childbirth is it.

Veronica Mars got renewed!!! I don't even know if anyone else here watches it anymore, but I'm ecstatic.

I'm watching it right now (seriously), AIFG!

Stephanie, if he's that nervous, can you offer to hire a doula? A professional non-doctor type support person might do him a world of good.

{{Stephanie}} good commmunication ma~~ to you guys

and yes, I still watch VM

I am FURIOUS! I just saw the dog that attacked Toto last summer or fall...being walked by his owner WITHOUT A LEASH. The owner is a kid, so I didn't report him when the dog attacked Toto...just gave the kid a talking to. Now I wish I would have.

ETA: I did call and report what I saw today. Who knows if they'll catch up with him in time, but at least I tried.

Is it just me or does Laura's tag keep getting longer and longer?

Please don't make me keep track of the o's. Please.

Snerk. Not to worry Sunil, it is the same length.