Aw, Gud, wishing you the best.

I have to have both love and friendship for a relationship to last. My parents were friends for 7 years before they married, so maybe that's a part of it. I will say that of my circle of acquaintances, the two most "romantic" --the ones who believe only in love at first sight and both of whom say they can't be friends with someone they date--are the ones still unattached in their late 40s. Both of them have had lots of partners over the years, but they would fall for someone, start dating, get to actually KNOW the person, and then lose affection. I think love at first sight can lead to lasting love--but that's more of an anomaly than a likelihood.

{{{Gud}}} I am so sorry. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything perfect for you.

{{{Gud}}}

Joe and I were friends first, but mostly cause he had a girlfriend when we met. For me, the best friend feelings came after the love. And sometimes, I tell him, "I need to bitch at my friend about my husband. Turn off husband mode."

heh. the realtor for the house we like is totally courting me.

{Gud}

money~ma for Susan.

Oh - and remember how we were talking about sex drams and people you know IRL? I TOTALLY had one about a co-worker and now, I don't to talk to him at all. I do have a teeny minor crush on him, but he's like 3000 miles away.

Gud, I wish there was something I could do for you. I'm sorry.

{{Gud}} I hope things work out.

DH and I met drunk at a party in college. We like to refer to it as the one night stand that lasted forever. Owen must NEVER know this.

{{{Gud}}}

Money-ma to -t, Susan, Nora, and anyone else who wants it.

Yay on the house, though, Nora. Yards rock.

We like to refer to it as the one night stand that lasted forever. Owen must NEVER know this.

And, yet, here it is on the internet!

Oh, Gud. I'm sorry the last year or so has been so rocky.

Nora, you certainly don't have to be grownup to buy a house. After all, I've owned a house since I was 22. I'm still waiting to grow up.