The only person's secrets you get to tell are yours.

And sometimes, you should prolly refrain from that too.

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Coffee Bean.

Coffee Bean obsessive!

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I thought this was an interesting article (NY Times, registration required), and definitely going to hit some buttons, but it's really stirring people up.

I thought it was interesting. I never thought of it as a them or him thing. I've played "what if" with all of them. I hate all the outcomes. I want them all. They're mine. They came to me.

I don't think I've ever played "I'd rather" with them, though. That seems (personally for me, not criticizing the author) like a betrayal of all of them. Of course, now my brain is thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking. I love Scott differently from how I love the kids. There are more (and some different) kinds of protectiveness involved in my love for them, than there is in my love for him. But also, I know that in the "I'd rather" leg of the "what if" game, he'd rather die in their place And I would rather die in their place, too, so it's a non-starter.

A strong relationship between the parents, where that relationship is the primary one, is a great ingredient for a good family with children. I think I think of a family as an entity, and don't split the parts so much.

The Salon kerfuffle has been interesting to watch, but "not publically humiliating your children" strikes me as good policy regardless of your profession, gender, or fame.

Yeah. I think that's where I did feel funny about the piece, and the not-included line ita mentioned, where she says she'd let her child take a bullet for her husband. I don't think people need to be ripping her a new one, or calling DSS, but I...it's weird to read, and maybe a little sad--not that she loves her husband so, but that...I don't know. I can't put my finger on it.

People ripped Anne Lamott to shreds, too, for admitting that sometimes you really resent your kids.

People who'd never been puked on at 3:00 in the morning, or taken a toe nail in the eye, I'm guessing?

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Depends. I either go to Playa Vista down the block from my office. Or Sunset Car Wash on Sunset near Fairfax.

Ooh, thanks. I desparately need to get my car washed, and my old place was basically at work. I figured you would know a good place, what with the car love and all.

t /car geek

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I want them all. They're mine. They came to me.

I made them with materials I had lying around the house.

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I need a new car.

Okay, I don't. But plastic in my vicinity (not just on the Jetta) seems to be shattering as I approach. And now every time I look at a Prius, I get a squirmy-envious feeling in my stomach. At least I know not to shop while that is still happening.

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Coffee Bean obsessive!

Well...yeah. I told you the story about when I was leaving for Vegas and D at the Bean said, "You know we have stores there now?"

And then I admitted that I did know that and, in fact, had already printed out the list of locations and put it in my binder.

what with the car love and all.

This reminds me. I keep seeing those Mercedes billboards everyone. "Love What You Drive." It makes me want to send them a little note, "Thanks for the concern but I do love what I drive. And it's not a Mercedes."

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Well, I was lying down. Does that count? I've never been crafty.

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My parents have a Prius. It's a really nice car. I'd like to have one, but it doesn't fit in the budget and I'd miss the manual transmission. Now the Honda Civic hybrid costs less and can be had with a manual tranmission, but alas, the buget doesn't support that either.

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And then I admitted that I did know that and, in fact, had already printed out the list of locations and put it in my binder.

Ah, How much do I love this! You are crazy.

I don't have a Bean love, but I have an iced tea love.

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