The Salon kerfuffle has been interesting to watch, but "not publically humiliating your children" strikes me as good policy regardless of your profession, gender, or fame.
Yes, but... I guess I just don't get where the automatic assumption that honesty, even about difficult issues, equals deliberately humiliating your children. Sure, in some cases it might be. And things may get awkward here and there. (The suicide question and how it was/is being handled is a more complicated issue, and not one I feel able to address, except to say that I'm not disagreeing with Betsy.)
But so much of the commentary feels to me like "shut up and take it and keep a smile on your face while doing it -
its for the children,"
that it's setting off a real squick for me. As though havjng a mental and emotional life, and having mental and emotional problems within that life, practically constitutes BadMothering in and of itself, and the only defensible way of dealing is to shove it deep down where no one will ever see.
What's a false tabloid?. Cause I don't understand at all.
HA! I've been going on about that all afternoon.
I just don't get where the automatic assumption that honesty, even about difficult issues, equals deliberately humiliating your children
How do you feel about it in this instance? I think, as a kid (pre-18 or so), I'd have been mortally embarassed at the level of detail, which is completely separate from the disquiet at learning that my mother has ranked her love
in public,
and I lose. She's posted elsewhere that she'd make one of her kids take a bullet to save her husband's life, and I can say that's the sort of
public
honesty I'd find mortifying for a host of reasons.
I love the PS...That's the best part, Kristen.
It is! And they'd be my favorite too if they paid me $2M for photos of my "faux" wedding.
do you think she writes that shit herself?
ita, I think Waldman's kids should be as bitter about this:
Frankly, at this stage they are far more interested in Gaia online and Muffin Films Web sites, but there will surely come a day when they will Google themselves, find my blog and both be furious with me for having stolen their lives and humiliated at the extent to which I have laid open my own. I told the New York Times reporter that blogging was "payback for driving back and forth to gymnastics all week long," but I don't really believe that.
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I guess I'm less appalled by the CultOfMommydom being upset and more weirded out at what Betsy said. Too much info and not locked down enough.
Dirty laundry, and not even hers. I find her PoV thought-provoking, but am not comfortable with the urgency with which she reveals what she admits are fleeting thoughts and half-truths to the world, including her kids. The only thing fleet about her thoughts once they hit the internet is the wildfire-way they spread. That shit will linger.
Dear god, I hope so.
Really? It would be both depressing and poetic if she hired someone to do it.
You do know that my post was in reference to Britney, yes?
