I go with three times, myself (with The Wish).
Buffy and Angel 1: BUFFYNANGLE4EVA!!!!!1!
Is it better the second time around? Or the third? Or tenth? This is the place to come when you have a burning desire to talk about an old episode that was just re-run.
But he did kill her in the Wishverse too. So while I say Buffy died twice, Joss killed Buffy three times also seems accurate.
I knew there was technically one other death. The Wish definitely counts. I also though about Nightmares, but I don't think the dreams ever became real reality.
Warren's shooting of Buffy definitely doesn't count.
Edited for an attempt at clarity.
Yeah, Warren didn't kill her. It was a close thing, but she didn't die then.
Did she die before time got rewound that time Angel became human?
no
It's all kind of a blur. Somehow my brain came up with "3" right away but wouldn't show its work.
Suddenly I'm struck with an obsession that we should register a whole slew of possible site names.
originalbuffistas.org
newbuffistas.org
realbuffistas.org
etc. (Including .comand others) to protect ourselves.
t /paranoid
thenotstupidbuffistas.org
OGbuffistas.org
pleasegoawayifyouthinknewbuffyisrealbuffybuffistas.org
OGbuffistas is my favorite.
Mine too. Duh.