Plus his eating habits are going to be an issue. Every day he goes and eats "country" food at a restaurant across from his office. Greasy, fried food, he thinks it should be okay for him to eat.
As someone who's been dealing with this, you telling him to change will do nothing but annoy him. He's just had a huge scare, and contemplating the pleasures he'll have to modify is not going to help his mood. If he's been going to that restaurant for so long, it's part of his social life. Sweeping changes, unless he initiates them, will not stick. He's going to miss his old life, and he may come to the conclusion that a country fried steak with his buddies is worth the risk.
Would it be possible for you to go to that restaurant with him and look at the menu? There might be compromise options. Heck, enlist the waitresses who have served him for years in the fight. They want to keep a good customer.
At the bottom of it, though, an extended life without joy is not always a victory.
He better learn to love oatmeal or raisin bran or he can start working on his will this afternoon.
Good luck with that. My father's been resisiting any and all improvements to his diet and lifestyle for more than ten years since his first heart attack.
askye, so glad your dad is doing better!
What am I supposed to quit now? I haven't endulged in pervy thoughts of underage relatives in hours.
I think Connie's suggestion is brilliant. "What can you eat in your favorite restaurant?" will probably work better than "Hey, son, it's Meiji's Macrobiotic Munchies from here on!"
I think Connie's suggestion is brilliant. "What can you eat in your favorite restaurant?" will probably work better than "Hey, son, it's Meiji's Macrobiotic Munchies from here on!"
Undoubtedly, she speaks from experience and knows the ways of the stubborn greasy spoon fancier.
I'm glad to hear there's no damage to the heart, askye!
My dad was in a support group/research program for people with heart disease after his surgery, and he was impressed by how much there seemed to be a type among them (including himself) - people who didn't like to relax and wanted to be in charge of everything. My dad channeled his Type A-ness into being very focussed on his diet and getting exercize and forcing himself to do his meditation and relaxation. I hope yours can find a way to be healthy, too.
Also, that drug coated stent thing sounds really cool.
wrod. (And I don't eat like that. Much. But people have been trying to Make it Better my whole stupid life. Hate it muchly.)
Dad likes oatmeal, so that's good.
But he really likes eggs and bacon for lunch. I'm trying really hard not to be lecture-y, but I also feel kind of pissed off at him for other things. I've always felt that Dad is extremely uncomfortable with anyone who is overweight, he's always made comments about how there shouldn't be two starchy things at dinner and that fast food is poison that he doesn't understand why anyone touches it and soda just rots your gut out.
And in our recent discussions I found out that not only does he eat deep fried greasy "home cooking" every day at lunch but he also has gone from eating 2-3 Big Kats a day to just 1.
It's a sort of headdesk situation. However, I've resolved just to cook better while I live there and hopefully when I move out he'll make some changes.
