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Spike's Bitches 22: You've got Angel breath  

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Aims - Mar 18, 2005 8:37:59 am PST #7577 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

AmyLiz, I wonder the same thing. Wasn't he, at some point, offered a billion dollars or something to sign her care over? My assumption is that he knows that Terri wouldn't have wanted all of this mess and is going to try and fulfill what she wanted. OTOH, if it were me in the situation, I'd have to give up and say, "Fine - here you go. I can't do this anymore."


Betsy HP - Mar 18, 2005 8:38:45 am PST #7578 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

There are cynical people who believe he wants the insurance money when she dies.

There isn't any left. It's run out.


tommyrot - Mar 18, 2005 8:39:16 am PST #7579 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

There isn't any left. It's run out.

Oh.

Then...

I don't know.


Cashmere - Mar 18, 2005 8:39:20 am PST #7580 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.

If they're willing to continue her care, and obviously want to, why does he feel the need to have the last (no horrible pun intended there) word?

The crux of the case is that the husband says that Terry told him she didn't want to be kept alive in case of coma, etc. But there is no written will. He sort of went on with his life while leaving her in a nursing home--he's got a child (or two) with another woman, but never divorced.

Her parents are arguing that he wanted her insurance money, etc. Husband claims it's all gone towards her care.

The legal point should be next of kin gets to make the decision. Her husband is next of kin. If he feels he's following her wishes, it should end there. But her parents insist that she just needs more therapy.


Pix - Mar 18, 2005 8:40:18 am PST #7581 of 10001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Amy, he says that she expressed very clearly that she would never want to be kept alive like this and that he feels it is cruel to force her to stay alive in a world after she has, for all intents and purposes, been dead for more than a decade.

It's very difficult for me to be rational about this; DH's father died very slowly from ALS and was down to 80 pounds and no means of communication by the time a family member did as he'd requested in earlier years and removed his feeding tube to let him die. If that person had done so publically, s/he could have been tried for murder. It just makes me sick to my stomach to even think about.


Betsy HP - Mar 18, 2005 8:40:24 am PST #7582 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

That's the thing -- the parents are quite plainly not living on this planet any more.

They claim she's responding to them. She hasn't got any fucking cerebrum to do that. There is no brain there.


tommyrot - Mar 18, 2005 8:40:44 am PST #7583 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

Is she in some weird gray area between being totally brain-dead and being... responsive?

eta:

She hasn't got any fucking cerebrum to do that. There is no brain there.

So she's completely brain-dead?


Betsy HP - Mar 18, 2005 8:41:45 am PST #7584 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

No. She is totally brain dead. MRIs show that her cerebrum has been replaced by fluid.

People who have a working brain stem move, open and shut their eyes, and make noises. She does all the above. That doesn't mean that she's thinking or responding.


Lyra Jane - Mar 18, 2005 8:41:59 am PST #7585 of 10001
Up with the sun

Can he divorce her, legally?


Aims - Mar 18, 2005 8:42:08 am PST #7586 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

See, this is something I don't understand. Husband/Wife = Next of Kin. End of story. If MY parents or Joe's parents EVER put up this kind of fight, I'd probably do the same thing.