While I wasn't raised to think that sex was bad - I did get it from the culture around me. tv and books. Teens that had sex ended up on afterschool specials. women that had sex with men did so only after being overwhelmed by the tides of passion. and I do think that culturally the US is strongly influenced by the early settlers and the work they had to do to stay alive.

Best. Slut. Ever.

Now that might be the nicest compliment anyone's ever paid me.

Best. Slut. Ever.

Now that might be the nicest compliment anyone's ever paid me.

I thought you'd appreciate that.

I go run an errand and you guys get all New-thready on me.

I tend to just not have regrets, period, because everything that I've done or experienced, good or bad, has lead me to a specific place, and I'm kind of happy with that place.

Plei is me, only more pregnant.

Jilli, yes, and that skirt needs you!

What Deena said. The style is made for you.

Cindy, thanks for your post. I'm at a bit of a disadvantage because my religious knowledge is slight, but I have read enough to know that not ALL Christians hate sex. (I think it's possible to be sex-positive and still believe in chastity and monogamy, just as promiscuous people can be sex-negative.)

Hec, I think you should surprize JZ with a dress from this page

I'll bet Hec would look good in a dress.

Don't know...he might have the legs.And, either I'm a sex-positive monogamist or I just think the world would end if more than one person was ever interested in me...I haven't decided. I'd be willing to test that theory, though.

Jilli, you should definitely get the skirt.

I, OTOH, need that coat Deena linked to.

I was raised nearly fundie, and yet had no idea that some people were taught sex was bad (never mind that it was never presented to me that way), until I was in my twenties. Where did I learn it was sometimes presented as bad? I learned that at a Christian college, where exactly the opposite (that sex is great) was stressed. And for the most part, the purity movements are based on the same theory.

This is me. While my religious background did stress that sex outside of marriage was bad, it wasn't because sex was bad. Quite the opposite. Sex is a gift from God that should be saved and given to the right person (ie, spouse) and would be wonderful.

Historically speaking, a lot of the "sex is bad" attitudes came hand-in-hand with the early church (read: Catholic) patristric writings that also ramped up misogyny. It was done, in large part, as a way to make the newly created institutional celibacy seem more attractive. If sex is bad and women are bad, why need them? Give them up and become a priest!

While my religious background did stress that sex outside of marriage was bad, it wasn't because sex was bad. Quite the opposite. Sex is a gift from God that should be saved and given to the right person (ie, spouse) and would be wonderful.

Yes. This.