Online sites exaggerate everything

Heh. Kevin, I like you. But the way you word things sometimes....

I think, because the amount of time it takes to make a post and the fact only one person at a time is talking, anything from a fuff, to a kuffle to a kerfuffle can last a long virtual time. Thus, lending a feeling of exaggerated feeling to it. To say that "online sites exaggerate everything,"....may I bonk you, now?

I don't have the benefit of notepad, F2F.

Serenity is still showing at some theaters in Philadelphia, Trenton, and New York. And North Bergen, NJ, for some reason. But none of those palces are close enough for me to be able to justify going there just to see a movie I've already seen four times. I should have gone yesterday, but I foolishly believed it would be here another week.

It's possible that having to express all one's thoughts in writing without the natural aid of body language and facial expression to make oneself clear is what makes online kerfuffles out of things that would be minor puffs of fuff in real life.

I don't even deal well with the minor RL fuffs, though. My stress levels go way up when I perceive others to be fighting. I don't get people who enjoy stirring up arguements, or watching them. (Not meaning to say that anyone here did that.) (It's also tiring, sometimes, to carry on online conversations of any kind, because I feel I have to be so very clear about what I'm trying to say and not say, because by the time one can explain oneself, the moment has passed and someone is already insulted. Or something. Oh, hell, you all know what I'm talking about. I hope.)

See, if the above kuffle had been done face to face, I can guarentee it wouldn't have been a big issue, and gone on for about 2 minutes.

True. I think everyone would have just walked away from you when you started doing airquotes around our names.

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Bonking.. I'm presuming you aren't British, SailAweigh. Or maybe you are.

I word things badly. Actions do get exaggerated online with people you don't know. There's some moments upthread where you can see me jumping off the deep end with people, and people jumping off the deep end with me over things which shouldn't happen if we knew each other.

Buffistas is a very insular community. People tend to know each other. I know, for example, Jars. And Jars knows me. So she was able to say to me tonight the equilivent of 'Shut the fuck up'. And that's cool. If you know somebody to an extent, you know more of where they are coming from. So Kuffles don't tend to happen. But when you have 'fresh blood' (remember the bit about wording things badly?) it can rock the boat because they don't know anybody, and nobody knows them.

Or something. I know what I mean.

Bonking.. I'm presuming you aren't British, SailAweigh.

Not British! I thought about that after I posted and wondered if I'd stumbled into a euphamsim. Sounds like I did. Consider yourself thwapped on the back of the head, then. Lightly.

Hee. Don't tell people you want to bonk them in the UK. Unless they are, you know, pretty. I also learned not to ask people in the US to bum a fag.

So, it turns out all my fascinated reading of Harlequin romances as a 14 year old didn't teach me that particular word of vernacular. I knew they were too prissy for my own good!

Huh. I didn't realize bonking, as in sex, was British. I guess I'm bilingual.

Hm. I use "boink" in regards to sex, but never "bonk." The second is strictly an act of hitting, no sex involved. Now I have to wonder if this is one of those regional differences, etc. that we can run into here in the States. Or, it might even be a "me" thing. I may have to ask some coworkers next week. Survey says!