No, they don't, P-C, but not all of them are worthy representatives of Buffista men, just as not all women can pull off the tiara/snark/swordplay thing.
I like men, a lot. And I make a conscious effort to engage strangers-but frankly, it is a conscious effort still. I've been stalked and I was molested by a stranger as a 13 year old, and I'm a lot less likely a target than Ms. Barton.
So, it can make one a little wary, which sucks, because nobody should have to live that way. And, it means that you sometimes err on the side of wary, and miss out what could have been a really pleasant to wonderful encounter.
IJS.
Edit to make more of the sense thing all the kids are having nowadays.
Not to interrupt flasher/celebrity sighting stories (welcome back, P-C!), but I'd just like to announce that I have finally joined the 21st century and used my cell phone to make a totally casual phone call from home, instead of my land line.
t waits for applause, realizes that I am a dork and about five years behind everyone else, and blushes
Oh, and I also just placed my very first-ever grocery delivery order! Not as expensive as I thought it would be (of course, the $15-off code I had helped), and less tempting for me to get stuff that I don't need, but am hopeless against when I go to the store in person (brownies, ice cream, cookies...).
Congratulations, Kathy! Now, you need a PDA and an iPod.
Because, well, I do often nonchalantly "follow" girls around and keep stealing glances at them. But it's only because I think they're pretty and I'm waiting for some opportunity to fall out of the sky and let me talk to them.
This would completely creep me out. To the point where, if it were at a mall or somewhere, I might notify security.
This would completely creep me out. To the point where, if it were at a mall or somewhere, I might notify security.
Oh. Oops. Maybe I'm not describing it properly. Or maybe this is why I'm single.
A friend of mine and I ended up explaining this to my officemate, who is probably in his 40s. He was surprised, to say the least. It is frustrating that it is so internalized an experience to women that some men honestly aren't aware of the calculations we make in our heads. And frustrating that it is so 'normal' a thing that you just do it wthout really thinking about it. Or something like that. I'm not very coherent on the idea. Probably because I do it without thinking about it. Just a daily routine.
To the point where, if it were at a mall or somewhere, I might notify security
They finally caught a serial rapist here in WI know as the "mall rapist." After 7 years. A couple of them at the mall only 1/2 a mile from where I lived. That I often walked to because it was so close, but never at night. Seven years of waiting for unaccompanied women to come out of malls so he could grab them. Let me tell you, there's a hell of a lot of relieved women in Madison.
P-C, At a party or something like that, it would be cool and might get you somewhere. In a public place like a mall or an airport? Nervousmaking and/or annoying.
nodding to the hyper-aware thing
It seems like the new policy is to require employees to justify and second-guess every decision they make and ask permission before doing anything, no matter how routine or insignificant.
Right you are. New school of management by intimidation, bullying and keeping the worker offguard and self-questioning. It's the new model, soon all the businesses will be using it. Reduce the workforce, increase the workload, reduce overhead, increase the profit margin. No, seriously, no snark intended. It's the business management standard being taught right now.
Because, well, I do often nonchalantly "follow" girls around and keep stealing glances at them.
Yeah, sorry, that's shady. Either walk up and say something, or don't, but following at all in any way is shady.
