I am having a 'senior moment' but bear with me.

At one point, recently, The Kid said someting to Jin, in English, and she responded immediately.

(After the toothbrush incident)

Serial, though I didn't intend for it to be.

I’ve read everyone’s comments, and I seem to have a completely different take on Jack’s conversation with his mother than everyone else.

The piece of dialogue that seems to get the most focus is (paraphrased)

Jack: I can’t.
Mother: You can’t say “I can’t”. Not after what you did.

This is my take on the whole family dynamic there. Warning: I may be way overidentifying.

Jack has always been the type to be the hero to save everyone. It’s a trait he still has.

Jack’s father (an alcoholic if there ever was one) is most definitely not a hero, though he may have been once. Jack father may have been a great success once, but, even as early as Jack’s childhood, he may have been failing more than succeeding. (The boy he was operating died.) For whatever reason (jealousy? regret?), he tried to discourage Jack from developing that trait.

Jack’s mother is very much the co-dependent wife who is torn between her husband and son. And it is her side of the argument with Jack that speaks most deeply to me about what may have happened.

Jack: He hasn’t spoken to me in two months.
Mother: You haven’t spoken to him in two months.(br>

and

Jack: His friends….
Mother: He doesn’t have any more friends. Why do you suppose that is?

Both of these comments, to me, indicate that Jack’s father did something very wrong and Jack is somehow being blamed for it. This is not uncommon in alcoholic families. You can’t blame the person with the problem, but someone has to be blamed.

I think that Jack’s father did something, perhaps messed up a surgery that could have killed or crippled someone. Jack knows. Maybe others know.

Jack is a hero. The “I can’t” exchange indicates to me that Jack doesn’t use the phrase often, because he truly has that “can-do” attitude. It’s because of whatever it was that he could do, what he did do, that his mother won’t accept the “I can’t” from him now. Her comment of “Not after what you did” seems to indicate that he did something nearly impossible, to the detriment of his father, for which she is angry with him.

I believe that Jack’s father botched a surgery, probably while intoxicated. Ever the child of an alcoholic, Jack tried to fix the problem (maybe fixed the surgery) and succeeded. I think everyone (that is, dad’s friends and colleagues) knew what happened, but Jack continued to cover for his dad, maybe losing his own license in the process. Jack’s dad lost all his friends who were disgusted by Jack’s dad’s professional conduct and willingness to let Jack take the fall. Dad was disgusted with himself and with Jack for once again playing the hero. He stopped speaking to Jack and took off to Australia, where he had a fatal bender.

Jack is torn. His heroic actions have torn his family apart. He loves his father. He hates his father. But, mostly, he doesn’t want to be his father. Note how, when given three extra liquor bottles on the plane, he only uses one to freshen his drink. He is very aware of how much alcohol he can and will consume.

To sum up: Jack may have lost his license, but I don't think it was for something he did medically wrong.

Disclaimer: My mother is a recovering alcoholic. I can’t imagine what my adult life would have been like had my mother not stopped drinking, and I am very thankful that she stopped when I was 12. I remember vividly the years I was 9, 10, and 11. I can see myself living the life I have described for Jack, with the covering and compensating. I did it when I was a child, on a child’s level. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

I think it would be far more interesting to say "They're in a mystical space between living and death" than to say "they're dead". If they're dead, then everything they do has meaning only if you buy into that version of the afterlife. If they're hanging in the balance, then every effort may make the difference whether they wake up in the rescue helicopter, or not.

(Also, it would explain the dead bodies. Those people are dead-dead, while the people walking around are only mostly-dead.)

In Dante's poems, the pains and punisments people suffered were (as I understand it, more knowledgable people please correct me if I'm wrong) specific to their sins, and very much not real world problems, even though there was (I think) actual physical suffering involved.

The punishments in Hell are classified punishments, but not specific to the circumstances of each sin. All the adulturers suffer one way; all the homosexuals another; all the traitors a third (frozen in ice!). The only people whose punishments are specific to the crime are Ugolino's betrayer (Ugolino, also a traitor, sits in the ice right next to him and gets to gnaw on his head), and Judas, Cassius and Brutus, who are so bad Satan is personally chomping on them this very minute (and every minute into eternity).

The idea is that it is indeed actual physical suffering, if that can be said of a soul, but Ugolino's betrayer never dies of being gnawed on.

Thanks, justkim. I think that goes a long way to support my position, though it may only be convincing to just me, who was already convinced).

Inferno/Purgatorio and Beetlejuice != living people problems.

Lost has living people problems (in addition to epileptic tree problems, but those easily fall into the same category of supernatural living people problems as found on such shows as Buffy, Farscape, and all the other shows we like, which feature living people).

No, that's not just in my mind, Cindy, I was very specifically refering to in those stories (Dante's afterlife stories, and Beetlejuice). In Dante's poems, the pains and punisments people suffered were (as I understand it, more knowledgable people please correct me if I'm wrong) specific to their sins, and very much not real world problems, even though there was (I think) actual physical suffering involved.

Yes, but if this is a purgatory story, why ever would the purgatory have to be tied into Dante's anyone's (other than J.J.'s) vision of it? That's the importing I'm talking about. I am ill prepared to say that if the characters are in some sort of purgatory, it is a lame story or a cheat, because I don't know how their world works, and wouldn't assume a Lost 'verse purgatory was anything like Dante's. But again, I really don't think this will end up being a purgatory.

JustKim, that makes sense. The exchange between Jack and his mom was bugging me.

why ever would the purgatory have to be tied into Dante's anyone's (other than J.J.'s) vision of it?

I'm worried that this is getting combative, but I do want to respond to this.

Here's why it's a cheat if they're just dead dead (not hovering as in Nutty's scenario)...

I don't need it to follow Dante's rules, but I do need dead dead people to have dead dead people problems, and not problems that mimic those of living people.

Otherwise, I feel cheated, curse JJ Abrahms' name, and never watch annoying show again.

I am sorry you feel it is combative. I didn't feel that way, and didn't mean to come off that way. I am sorry if/that I have. I was going to respond to your worry about being snippy, but I hadn't read you as snippy in the first place, just animated, so I wanted to continue.

but I do need dead dead people to have dead dead people problems, and not problems that mimic those of living people.

Okay. I don't know what the problems of dead people would be in this Lost 'verse. As I understand what you're saying above, for you, you need the dead's problems to be different, than they would be for living people, who were stranded on an island, in order to enjoy it. If I'm reiterating your point correctly, then that, I understand. I just don't share that need (provided I get a mythology somewhere along the way).

I am sorry you feel it is combative. I didn't feel that way, and didn't mean to come off that way. I am sorry if/that I have.

No, no! I was worried *I* was being combative! Not you, me! (Just because I can so often rub people the wrong way)

If I'm reiterating your point correctly, then that, I understand.

Yeah, that's my problem. I don't know what dead people problems would be in the Lost 'verse either, but I'm definitely the type to feel cheated, and react poorly, if they've been dealing primarily with living people problems, even if I get some mythology about it later.

I don't especially want a Lostverse mythology. I like that there's been a lot of weird unexplainable shit happening, but...I don't know. I want it to be real people dealing with real things that are really happening in the real world. I don't want it to be fantasy/horror universe. I would find that incredibly disappointing.