"Jungle of Mystery" is fine with me.

Lost 2: ....and confounded.

or JOM works for me too.

So, the next thread title is going to be Lost 2: Tied to a Tree in a Jungle of Mystery? We're only 5 posts short of the thread-croaking.

I think that's as good a bullshit consensus as any.

It's ready to go. I've lit the fuse...

Oops, wrong thread...

At what point do we generally start up the "Goodbye and Good Riddance" thread for the holiday season? I only ask because I just got my Buffista secret santa assignment, and my dad's family is in the first stages of planning for X-treme Thanksgiving Deathmatch!!!

Not til around December 9th.

I would like for dw to be warned for posts that disrupt community harmony and, when, being called on it, not handling the disgruntlement.

I know I'm supposed to provide links so here we go.

The first ruffling happened around calling Seattlites "passive aggressive thugs" dw "Natter .38 Special" Aug 30, 2005 4:04:01 pm PDT. When Plei nicely chided him here P.M. Marcontell "Natter .38 Special" Aug 30, 2005 4:16:21 pm PDT, his response was to agree that she was indeed defensive (found dw "Natter .38 Special" Aug 30, 2005 4:34:22 pm PDT).

Next one that pinged me was dw "Spike's Bitches 26: Damn right I'm impure!" Sep 9, 2005 1:43:04 pm PDT The Frumpy Librarian slam. Which Sparky1 dispatched politely and quietly. And the response was, "HEY! That's my experience." In that same post there was something about Plei's name being Japense for a car that yuppie lesbians drive.

Then due to the power of software, things fell off radar for me. Until the big blow up two weeks ago in Bitches when he said that the people Susan was having a problem with should "Burn in motherfucking hell, you fuckheads." When called on that, he deleted it at some point, but continued to argue about how those people he was arguing with were in the wrong. In fact, he said that the onus should be on us to email him when we have an issue with something Susan says dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 1, 2005 6:38:40 pm PST.

When he realized he overreacted here dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 2, 2005 8:35:16 pm PST there wasn't an apology for the comment or even a statement that there would be an effort to change the reaction/behavior that prompted it.

which brings me to today. Susan posted about public schools here dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 3:50:24 pm PST, with an implication about their inferiority. dw backs her up dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 5:05:23 pm PST Kristin calls him on it and he responds dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 7:09:46 pm PST I post that I'm offended here Kat "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 7:55:48 pm PST dw responds to me dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 8:08:17 pm PST here. I respond with what I want which is not an apology, but merely an acknowledgement that what he said, especially following on Susan's comments, can be interpreted by those of who are teachers as offensive here Kat "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 8:45:00 pm PST

After a lengthy exchange in thread with Susan about it, dw posted dw "Spike's Bitches 27: I'm Embarrassed for Our Kind." Nov 17, 2005 11:13:31 pm PST, which seems a clear disinterest in dealing with it in thread. And, so I'm here.

Whew...linky done.

So here's where I am and what I am upset about. It seems that there is a pattern of behavior where dw writes something that bothers people. They say something. He defends, counterattacks or ignores what they want. It simmers down. Then happens again.

To me, this seems like a breach of community standards and I'd like to see him warned. Not for any single incident per se, but because these skirmishes cause a disruption to our community.

So many of us say offensive things and when called on it, we learn how to gracefully back down or, if not, at least modify our behavior. I certainly hope that a warning here will do that.

Edited to add: if it were just me that gets bothered, I'd excercise my option to block. But it's not just me. And this is not me saying "the lurkers support me in email." It's me saying, I'm tired of watching LOTS of people get bothered.

I'll second this request.