FTR, the proposals about how to warn, what happens when warned and so forth, is here: msbelle "Sunnydale Press" Apr 19, 2003 12:02:50 am PDT

I was unable to find that info in the etiquette, FAQ, or How-to. It should be somewhere.

And

What I said was that I'm not up for debating it to death

specifically when you have tried to talk it out in thread and move something here, it doesn't have to be you debating so much as people either supporting it or not. If 10 people do then there is a warning. Period. That's It.

You can talk all you want about being conflict avoidy and stressed out by these talks...

Hey, people are coming forward and saying "X makes me uncomfortable". I think we can listen and try to respond out of, you know, the goodness of our hearts and the wish for widespread happiness.

Seriously. Why SHOULD they be stressed to tears to be heard when we are perfectly intelligent people capable of taking others wishes into account even if they DON'T post them loudly and repeatedly?

But Trudy, just because it was harder for someone to say something, doesn't mean that their words weigh more.

Any more than I believe that lots of words by someone who says them easily weighs more.

Scrappy can make one post in an ocean of posts, and I'll see it, and take it into consideration, and it will affect me and change the way I feel.

Just because someone feels drowned, doesn't mean that they are. Sometimes mouthy people pick up the gauntlet for the unmouthy.

You do it all the time.

Why SHOULD they be stressed to tears to be heard when we are perfectly intelligent people capable of taking others wishes into account even if they DON'T post them loudly and repeatedly?

Sophia chose to deal with the stress because it mattered to her. What I don't get is your insistence that we aren't taking people's wishes into account. What exactly do you think should be done? If people (a) aren't willing to discuss the issue or (b) bring it to a vote, how exactly are we supposed to know what the wishes are? Elena could have very easily posted Deathmatch notices at the beginning of a new character bracket (as Ple suggests) and that would've been a compromise rather than a capitulation. It would've cut the notices down in volume without eliminating them. Right down the middle. In fact, I wish she'd do that.

Just as an amusing sidenote interjected: I just re-read the thing in the FAQ about Hec and Knut, and Dana TOTALLY imposed her will on others! Kinda. She didn't get to pick their new names, as it turned out, but she sure tried.

That could be why Knut left....

and Dana TOTALLY imposed her will on others!

She's so bossy. But note how readily Knut and I compromised for the good of the board. David Rothschild, however stuck to his name, that cantankerous bastard.

You can talk all you want about being conflict avoidy and stressed out by these talks...

Yet when a poster comes forward and explains that there is a problem in their opinion, a few others do backflips to try to demonstrate that no problem exists. Then when a few others agree that the problem exists for them too, specific examples and names are demanded. When provided, these examples are dismissed as not being good examples, but if they are, then damn-it, the people involved are going to defend their actions. Then it is suggested that solutions are already in place to solve the problems that some still maintain don't exist, and hey - if the solutions don't work for you, tough?

Well, to be fair, the thread is called bureaucracy. =)

But such responses could be one of the reasons why the avoidy-stressed out types kinda get avoidy in the first place.

Rafmun, I have to be honest here. I haven't seen you post anywhere but this thread. I don't know what basis you have for being so critical of this community. You haven't been a part of it at all, and yet you come in and post really insulting -- yet vague -- assertions about this community.

That would be like me walking into a Kiwanis' meeting, insulting them, and walking out. [NB: I am not a Kiwani.]

Why should we give any weight to your assertions? I'd really like to know.

Rafmun, yeah, what you described is people have different opinions on an issue. People who disagree with you are going to defend their position. And if you don't like the solution to the issue, suggest another one.

But honestly, I don't see you saying anything accept some people are pushy and you and some others don't like it.

Have they done anything to be warned for? If not, there is nothing that can be done.

We have encourgaed people to speak up who feel left out. There has been support for them here today and from more than a few.

You are speaking in very broad generalities and I do not even get what you are on about anymore.

Directly, what do you want changed?