Whoopsies, killed the thread.

Feeling better mentally and am recalibrating to focus on what I can do. I let my old boss know I’m available for small projects, messaged a bookkeeper to get my past taxes filed (and I hope a refund on the way), and plan to start selling/donating/recycling the stuff I’m not taking. And clarified with my ex-employers that my health care will continue to the end of the month, when I’ll go on COBRA for June (which had already been discussed).

Get started on the transition to COBRA now, don't wait, so that it will be set up in time for your June medical expenses.

My experience with the transition to COBRA was not a smooth one.

The company that my ex-employer uses for COBRA took most of a month to get the enrollment packet to me, and required me to return the completed forms by USPS. They required me to send in my first payment by physical check, also by USPS. Only once that had cleared was I allowed to set up an online account for electronic payments.

The delays were a nuisance. I had to re-schedule several appointments. I managed to not get kicked off my clinical trial, but I was worried about it for a while. Fortunately, I had enough meds on hand that I didn't have to go without before I had coverage for refills.

One of my bosses texted me this afternoon and let me know that Monday was retroactively my last day,

I wish this were not such a frequent result of getting notice. After some time has passed you might send a thoughtful note on how they could improve processes. Moreso, I hope you are so busy and engaged with your new position that you won't find the time. The new job is such a good fit that I am excited for you, and them.

COBRA, ick. I always hear awful things. Going on Medicare was just dandy for me. Insert rant about our healthcare system. DH is hating his current plan but can't find anything he likes better. Our old PCP retired. I'm pushing my son and his GF to get on the NY state system, which seems much better than the national plans. Like many young people, they have zero health insurance.

After some time has passed you might send a thoughtful note on how they could improve processes.

Or, you know, don't. You don't owe them anything. If they want your advice on how to not be shitty employers, your consultancy rates start at $1k/hour.

After 48 hours I'm finally reunited with my luggage. The jetlag was bad yesterday, much better today, and maybe by next week it'll be gone. Also, I'm getting re-used to the heat.

Hooray for luggage, Shir!

I'm very glad to hear about your reunion with your luggage.

After 48 hours I'm finally reunited with my luggage. The jetlag was bad yesterday, much better today, and maybe by next week it'll be gone. Also, I'm getting re-used to the heat.

May your soul catch up to your body after all those time zones!

So glad you came, Shir!

Yay for safe travels, Shir! That sounds exhausting.

Thanks for heads up, dcp. I will nudge my ex-boss Tuesday about getting that moving.

Or, you know, don't. You don't owe them anything. If they want your advice on how to not be shitty employers, your consultancy rates start at $1k/hour.

Yeah. The super fun part is that they framed letting me go as wanting me to “start my new adventure rested and refreshed.” Me too, but that wasn’t their call and moves are expensive.

They could have offered to pay me for my institutional knowledge before I left, but they didn’t. Just more proof that I was only valued for my physical labor.

So they aren’t even getting the typed summary of the session in NC the other week that they paid my entry to. And I plan to respond to any queries with “per your decision, my last day of employment was May 20th.”

And they didn’t listen to my feedback while I was there, so. Why waste any more energy?

After 48 hours I'm finally reunited with my luggage.

Yay! It was so good to see you and get F2F hugs. I'm grateful that you could come, and that you are home and reconnected with your luggage.